Why are DH family so utterly ignorant and inconsiderate

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I've literally had it. Unfortunately we are stuck at DH parents home during this situation as we sold our house and new build was delayed so had to move what we hoped would be for a very short amount of time. I was very grateful this was an option but I'm massively regretting this as his family are in and out calling round for stupid things and currently for a cup of fucking tea! I'm absolutely blown away by it. I can't say anything because it is not my house. Currently his uncle is round who might I add, is a nasty bully who has reduced me to tears with the horrible personal comments he has made before, I'm so angry that people think the rules don't apply to them. Are people absolutely fucked in the head to this extent?! It's horrifying. I don't feel like I can take another day of this shit but where the hell do I go at this time. I wouldn't even risk going round to my parents house and staying there for the forseeable as no doubt I'be caught this virus from the utter stupidity of people and I would absolutely not want to put them at risk and then get it as they are fully abiding by all the rules and playing there part.

I spoke to a lovely nurse at work today who was describing a similar situation with a patient and she described it like a mass murder, I would not disagree. These people are a complete and utter waste of oxygen.

How frustrating for you. If it were me I would remove myself from room where people are calling round and hang out in my bedroom. Presumably if you dont particularly get on with uncle then you wont be missing his engaging conversation. I would hang out in my room and read or book or scroll through netmums. You would like to think that this is nature's way of culling the stupid people.

I'm currently sat upstairs where I've been spending most my spare time but still worries me a lot. I normally shoot up there everytime he comes round anyway, he's unpleasant to most females in the family but seems to have it in for me for particularly for absolutely no reason. It's been nearly an hour now but it's almost daily that people are calling round and I just really don't understand it and don't feel like I can take anymore.

Tell them.

If you're spending all of your time in your room anyway, you don't have anything to lose!

I've told DH how I'm feeling and he sort of shrugged to say what can I do. In his parents defence I don't think they are aware they are coming as I think they just turn up with no warning but if that was my house people were rocking up to I would absolutely not allow them in for a cup of bloody tea. My god do people live in a bubble

Op are you sure 'shoot up there' is a great choice of wording??

So if you’ve sold up and your new house isn’t available yet, presumably you’re not paying rent or mortgage anywhere? So why not get a short term rental? I appreciate there is a lockdown but surely there must be some options.

I would be looking for air b&b

@windyatthebeach wow reading that back I could of definitely put that better😂

We are helping out with bills and buying all our own food etc but we only have my wage at the moment until DH is back to work so it's going to be a struggle renting as well as putting money away as a backup incase he isn't back to work when we move in, but If I could I would do that just to get out of here but the only rentals around my area are for at least 6 months which he (hopefully) won't need that long at all and require a large deposit. I just feel a bit trapped

I do appreciate ils could drive a person to drugs!!
Luckily I have been nc with mine for over 5 years!!. Def recommend it!!.

Call the police and dob them in anonymously

At least you know what cretins they are now. Plan for NC with the lovely uncle and minimal with the rest. Good luck, keep yourself safe in your room, lots of hand washing and take care!💐xxx

Really feel for you OP, you can make your point to them, but some people are so selfish and think they above it all.

Hopefully they will dodge it or if they get it they will have symptoms that keep them home while shedding the virus at home. If asymptomatic they'll be spreading it. As others have said, keep your distance and wash your hands etc.

NC seems like a good plan for the future for majority of them, I honestly can't wait just to have my own space again, know I'll be safe and not have to deal with this again. I just don't understand people's mentality at times like this. Plenty of hand washing to continue indeed. Thanks for the kind replies, it's helped reassure me that I'm over going over the top!