To be resentful of BIL and SIL!

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Now,I know I'm just frustrated and stressed but I just need to vent. I'm wfh and I have also taken a reduction in pay for the company (we all have) and I have two dc also at home, dh is working from his office (he's the only one there) it's his business and it can keep going through this thank god!
But SIL AND BIL are BOTH at home (not working and on FULL PAY! She is putting up pictures on the family what's app group, Facebook etc of all of these lovely activities they are doing with the dc and it's doing my head in! It's like they are in a complete bubble and have no idea of the stresses going on for those around them!! It just seems so unfair! Anyway...vent over...

Jealous? You are not funding their lifestyle. None of your business!

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to be envious. I’m careful not to post too much on fb as I am in a similarly lucky position. It’s hard.

I feel.your pain OP. I'm wfh and homeschooling, but my family, who are not, regularly post sunbathing sessions and family walks in our Whatsapp chats, when our work has increased.

Of course I feel envious!

They clearly work for better companies than you do. Take note of all the companies doing the right thing by their employees and paying them full pay or not going down the furlough route and when this is all over apply to work for them.

I'm envious of my family too. Parents and siblings, none of them working yet all unimpacted financially, while we struggle to amuse and educate two primary school aged kids whilst both working full time.

I just ignore them when they moan about how bored they are, or what hard work it is entertaining my niece

Why is it any of your business? Don't look at their posts if it makes you jealous

I get this op snap

Envy is so ugly. I think you would do well to appreciate what you have, a husband who is still able to work and make money, you are working from home so also receiving pay and you and your children are healthy. There are many who don't have what you have yet are living their life to the best of their capability.

I think in situations such as these it is much better to try not to compare and become bitter. The same could be said for you, you don't realise how lucky you are to be in the position you are in, and should stop moaning. See, not helpful is it?

You're in a bubble, actually.

I've been furloughed on full pay (for now) and I hate it. I'd much rather be working. I like my job and my colleagues, and I enjoyed having the routine of working from home and the sense of purpose it gave me. I'm worried about my job security in the long run and concerned about how I'm going to entertain myself at home for the foreseeable future.

Yes some people might love being furloughed, but it's not all roses so I wouldn't feel too envious.

I do feel for you. You are entitled to rant and at least you are honest.

There will be people reading this who are in a much worse situation than you. For example a branch of my family who are grieving a parent this week and unable to be with each other or the widow he left behind. Some of them are also dealing with financial catastrophe and job loss at the same time.

Comparison is really a waste of time and is only going to make you miserable. Focus on the many ways in which you are fortunate. That's the way to get through this.

I’m envious that you have a life and are able bodied rather than disabled and chronically ill. There. We all have things, which frustrate us.

How about making the most of it?

This OP is just having a vent. Why are people trying to turn her post into something more dramatic than it is. Everyone feels envious from time to time so don't lie and say you don't. Let her vent! Leave an encouraging comment or fuck off.

Envy is very ageing and creates negativity.

Try and count your blessings instead

I have been through the bitter stage about work and people having gardens. It does no good but get you angry and upset. Nothing can change while all this shit is going on so just mute them on social media.

This OP is just having a vent.

If you choose to vent on a public forum don't be surprised when people pass comment on it

It’s not their fault they got a better deal. It sucks, but I can guarantee there are thousands who would happily trade with you right now.

@pocketem it's not people commenting that's the problem. She was just venting her frustrations. I had a problem with people turning this into a very melodramatic situation and just being bloody arsy as usual.

'I’m envious that you have a life and are able bodied rather than disabled and chronically ill'

'Jealous? You are not funding their lifestyle. None of your business!'

'Why is it any of your business? Don't look at their posts if it makes you jealous'

Just pointless, moody, childish comments!

My work started a what's app group yest and all day posting what they are cooking and their perfect life I'm ready to leave group chat after day one but dont want to be rude.

Good grief.