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Keeping your teen from going out

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BettyBo33 · 02/04/2020 15:04

I can’t be the only one fighting this ongoing battle when it comes to teen DS going to see his girlfriend?! Just looking for support really. 16 year old wants to see his long term girlfriend in another town. Her mum has said she’s happy for him go but I think it goes against everything we should be doing and I’ve told DS that. Ex H thinks he should be able to. So I’m the only one actually listening and trying to keep social distancing alive and it’s exhausting and stressful.

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TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 02/04/2020 15:09

Are you not in the UK?

Because here, we've moved on from social distancing to lockdown so only essential outings are permitted. Going to see girlfriend doesn't count!

GreenTulips · 02/04/2020 15:10

Nope he can’t go.

Both adults should be ashamed of themselves

TeddyIsaHe · 02/04/2020 15:11

It’s lockdown, he can’t go out. It’s that simple. He could be responsible for the death of someone’s grandparent/parent/child just because he can’t wait a couple of weeks to see his girlfriend.

Mamamia456 · 02/04/2020 15:11

I know it's difficult for your son, and it's irresponsible of his girlfriend's mum to say it's OK to visit. If he gets stopped by the police he will be fined for being out without a valid reason. I'm sure I read yesterday that a woman was fined for being at a train station without a good reason.

Windyatthebeach · 02/04/2020 15:12

My ds 16 was told no gf visits /visiting.. He is actually doing as he is told!
Show your ds some footage of news reports.

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BettyBo33 · 02/04/2020 15:12

I’m in the UK so yes it’s lockdown and no he shouldn’t. The emotional fallout though and stress of arguing my point is just getting me down.

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jenganinja · 02/04/2020 15:13

I think you're right. But it must be very hard.

Mamamia456 · 02/04/2020 15:13

And your ex husband is being irresponsible too.

Makeitgoaway · 02/04/2020 15:15

We're not locked down in UK. We are practicing social distancing. That means he can't visit another household.

Babyroobs · 02/04/2020 15:16

My 17 year old ds completely understands that seeing his gf is off limits right now ! I asked him last night if he thought their relationship would survive the lock down ( they've only been together about 6 weeks ) and he replied absolutely.

twinkle2306 · 02/04/2020 15:21

No no no. Sit him down and show him that younger people are dying, show him what implications his actions could have. I'm presuming her has a phone and so does she if so FaceTime and Skype.
I'd also speak to her mum and explain that no one should be visiting other households and not to encourage this behaviour

Andi2020 · 02/04/2020 15:21

Tell him if he goes to stay there to lockdown is over.
My dd(16) with bf for 5 months they facetime and snap and watch the same movie at night and she reckons they will make it through this how ever long it takes.
Young love it is hard for them.

septsapp · 02/04/2020 15:28

I have an apparent adult partner who is fighting me every day to go out like I'm his mum and he's grounded 😡 we have a young baby he cannot understand my concerns and going to any shop that is open is apparantly ok as it wouldn't be open otherwise! He's been told go anywhere you want but don't be coming back afterwards 😂 fee like the big bad wolf atm 🙄

ellabella18 · 02/04/2020 15:32

@Makeitgoaway We are locked down, we've been TOLD to stay at home except for one outdoors exercise per day and essential journeys like shopping for food or helping the vulnerable!

Op I gave a ds if a similar age and understand that it's an absolute nightmare to contain a teenager but since your ds visiting his girlfriend is not essential you would ABVVVVU to even consider it, please stick to your guns, save lives and decrease the risks of infection otherwise more people will die and we will all be at home for a very long time!

ellabella18 · 02/04/2020 15:33

So many typos, sorry!!!

Betty4823 · 11/11/2020 14:13

I’m really struggling too, my 17 year old has tested negative at boarding school and kept in for 3 weeks. She has a long weekend coming up and wants to see her boyfriend for 2 nights (who has also been in school for 3 weeks and is negative) she don’t see him again till December ! Ongoing arguments and pleadings ... and help or advise please ?

Betty4823 · 11/11/2020 14:14

I’m really struggling too, my 17 year old has tested negative at boarding school and kept in for 3 weeks. She has a long weekend coming up and wants to see her boyfriend for 2 nights (who has also been in school for 3 weeks and is negative) she don’t see him again till December ! Ongoing arguments and pleadings ... and help or advise please ?

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 11/11/2020 15:14

If in England she can meet him outdoors keeping to SD guidelines. Indoors isn’t allowed and remind her why the rules are in place.

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