Anyone thinking of withdrawing their kids?

[Knocksomesense]

My two preschoolers go to a fee paying preschool. Terms of contract are one terms written notice for withdrawal.

Ds1 is undergoing medical investigations for a potential autoimmune condition. Aside from this he gets infections regularly, suffers from fatigue, has poor muscle tone and poor physical development. Truth is, we don't know what is wrong with him so have decided to shield him until we hear otherwise. He also has quite a lot of emotional issues - but has been very happy since we have isolated.

So here comes my question. Are you withdrawing your kids from fee paying setting?

We are financially up against it and are of the opinion that this won't entirely blow over by september. I wonder whether emotionally for him it is better to home ed for a while and also financially.

Anyone considering the same?

Nope, in fact I’m thinking of upping the days my 2.5yr old goes to nursery. Her behaviour since being home has been appalling and she keeps asking for her friends. The more activity and structure and socialising for her the better. She also starts nursery next year as summer born so u want her to be used to an external setting.

But every child is different so you do what’s best for yours and your family.

No one else? I'm so stuck

Why are you stuck?

He’s happier at home, financially you’re better off if he’s at home - why is this a dilemma?

I guess because September is such a long time away. He is three and I am aware he starts school in 2021.

This isn't a hysterical CV post but it likely won't go away, I consider him at risk. But I need to balance this with his educational need? Ds2 is only 2 so we have an additional year to play with

Do you need childcare? Have not applied for a school nursery place?

I don’t think you’re hysterical at all

But it sounds as if it’s a nursery setting, which is really there for working parents. If you don’t need it, he doesn’t need to go.

I think I apply in the autumn for school next september. His school is an age 2-7 so I'm undecided whether he will stay or move on for year R.

It's a "school". They work term time only 9-3 plus wraparound. I work evenings so don't need childcare

OP, in your situation, I'd withdraw him from nursery. Have him at home where you say he is happier. Let him build up his immunity more gradually under controlled conditions and also work on his physical development by creating games and exercises that target what he most needs to master. Also there's no rule that says he must start school in 2021. You can choose to home school him through infant years if you want and he could start school with others in juniors.

I am wary of triggering any social services intervention. Not that there is reason but he is a tough cookie.

We requested referral to a parenting class because we were at our wits end with him and so would like to find a way to seek some sort of play therapy for him. His growth is poor - weight and height. He is under the paediatrician and health visitor.

I guess this is it, I'm wondering whether home ed is more the way to go. Cv isn't going away and it honestly could kill him. He gets very sick even with minor illness. So is it best all round

You say CV could honestly kill him.

He needs to stay at home. No question.

I guess this is my speculation. We have no diagnosis so this is just my opinion. I believe it to be true, but I can't say with certainty

I work in a Nursery school keep him at home he is much safer at home with you. Nursery is not compulsory a child does not need education till 5 years old. Thats when its compulsory hopefully you find out what is going on with him. Then you have much better idea of what you are dealing with and what he really need to help him. I think you doing amazing job for him xxz

Put your notice in now for terms notice.

Also ours are giving 50% discount for pre-prep summer term.

See how the summer term HE goes.

Don’t worry if you change your mind - they will bite your arm off to have you back at anytime.

I have had 4 go through the private system - nearly out the other end.....and have seen schools pressure around places. It’s a hard sales tactic.

There will be many people reconsidering their Sept intake place right now.

Do what’s best for the heath and emotional grounding of your child. That’s the horse before the cart.

Really they grow and learn in their own time....I have one with significant SEN - she couldn’t read “the” in year 2......slowly and calmly she has found herself (only in the last 3 years) - she did brilliantly at GCSE and has 5 offers from top 10 unis.

Emotional stability is the foundation of learning and education.

Thankfully it's not an ultra competitive private. Just a little Montessori setting on a farm.

I think my mind it set. Unless things change drastically I'm going to pull them out. I don't think I'll regret it. They both enjoy doing their letter sounds and early years education is pretty doable (used to teach year r). Really need to focus on his fine and gross motor skills which are really behind. He's 3y4m now and has only in the last week started walking down the stairs without holding my hand