Is this high risk?

[Moomin8]

My dp and I don't live in the same house but we have a 3 month old dd. With this being the case, he can't take her to his house so he comes to my house to see her. Apparently this is allowed ( I checked with my Mp) I'm 39 and he's 51.

When he is not here he stresses me all the time about going out for food and says I shouldn't go out more than once a week. Unfortunately I have to go out more than once a week because I can't get delivery slots and our supermarket is frequently out of things that we need. I am fortunate to live right next door to a supermarket so I choose a time to go when there are no 6ft apart queues (someone sits at the door and counts shoppers inside). I wear gloves and spend no more than 10 minutes in there. The rest of the time my dds and I are inside. We don't go out anywhere.

My dp says if I go more than once a week to the shop I am putting him at risk. In the past he told me he has MS. Then he said he doesn't have it.

Now he does again since this covid 19 thing started and he says it makes him high risk. He also had cancer but never had chemotherapy and had the all clear after 5 years.

I feel that he is being quite unreasonable tbh. I don't even know what to believe. He has not had a notification from the government to say he is high risk.

He doesn't live with me btw he comes to visit our dd once a week.

If he is such high risk he should be self isolating. Can he watch baby while you go to shop? However it sounds as if you do not know him well or even believe him. If so why are you allowing him into your home at all.

I do know him well we've been together for 2.5 years. But he changes what he says about the MS. I never take the children shopping - my 16 year old looks after the baby for 10 minutes if I have to go.

I told him if he's worried he should stay at home. Instead he says he wants to come and see our daughter but has a go at me about going out ever.

How long were you together before you fell pregnant. Why don’t you live togetheR?

It sounds like he’s a very selfish man, making this all about him, and does not sound like he’s honest either, how did they cure his cancer? And why did his ms diagnosis change?

I think you know the truth here op, you just don’t want to say it out loud.

We don't live together because he doesn't want to. He doesn't have much patience.

WRT to the cancer - he had a lump which was caught early and didn't spread so he didn't need chemo. That was over 5 years ago

Honestly, he does not sound reliable and is undermining you. What evidence is there of any chronic condition or cancer, or is it just what he has said.

It's just what he's said. All this happened before I met him.

He hasn't been told by the government that he's high risk though. That he does admit.

Can I ask why you are with this man when you don’t bribe what he says?

It’s it possible to have cancer and not have chemotherapy but I would be very suspicious about the I do/don’t have MS.

If you and your family need food and you have no other options then you need to go.

I've just said to him that if he's high risk he needs to self isolate completely and not come to visit us whilst this is going on.

MS is not on the extremely vulnerable list so he won’t be receiving a letter even if he does have MS.

Or send your 16 yo. Frankly unless he is going to help he has no business to criticise. Do you know family and friends? Any scars from treatment, lumps rarely just go spontaneously.

Oh I see

He does have a scar, yes. Even if my older daughter goes to the shop he thinks it's a risk to him. He basically wants us to never leave the house.

But he can , yeah right. More chance of him bringing it to you.