Help- who looks after the kids?

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Dh is immunosuppressed, symptomatic and in bed. He’s been quarantined in there for 3 days now.
2 of the dc have cough/sore throat since last night/ this morning. Also in their rooms. Both well otherwise.
1 dc coughed twice today (the youngest). He’s been on his own in the lounge.
1 dc (12yo) is well and largely in her room.
I’ve been monitoring/ feeding/ providing entertainment/ company to everyone (company via phone/ Alexa), all while socially distancing etc.
But now I’m starting to get tightness/ heaviness in my chest. Do I carry on as I have been or quarantine and have the 12yo provide soup and sandwiches? I’m terrified about infecting people (if I even have it?) but I’m not sure if she’d be put at more risk that way, and certainly our diet would be less healthy!
What would you do? Is there clear advice on this?

I'm sorry but unless you live in a mansion and spend 24/7 cleaning you can't stop if from spreading round a house. Look after your children as you normally would and hope for the best. Children will probably be mild anyway.

Exactly what Peppa said

Not a mansion! Unfortunately.
2 bathrooms (could I separate sick and well?)
Enough bedrooms for 1 each if I sleep in the sun room.

Sorry if I’m being irrational, fear does that to me!

You're fighting a losing battle unfortunately, i think you need to come to terms with the fact that you're all going to get it, stop focusing so hard on quarantine and put a plan in place for that instead.

If you've all already got symptoms, I'm not sure what isolating from each other will achieve, except possibly avoiding contact with your DH to minimise his exposure to bugs.

I have plans for everything but this! Guess I just need to get on with it then, and pray.

@PerspicaciaTick 2 don’t have symptoms yet. It’s them I’m trying to protect.

We have a plan for if one of us is symptomatic but the others not.
If more than one of us is ill, it will be interacting as normal as we don't have the resources to limit transmission beyond that.

If there is more than one of you symptomatic, excluding your DH as he is immunosuppressed, it's not worth trying to isolate everyone individually, plus you can all muck in and help each other, rather than you being sick and running yourself ragged after everyone else, which is likely to make you worse or prolong your illness if you are not able to look after yourself.

It sucks big time but at least if you are all ill relatively close together, you will hopefully also all get better relatively close together.

I think if one of you has it it's too late to do anything now and you'll all get it.
I would concentrate on preparing meals that you can re-heat, cleaning etc so if you start feeling worse you can spend the next couple of days curled up on the sofa with your DCs knowing there's not much to do.

The risk to your children of covid is very low. They've probably already had it.

Agree with pp, just live normally within the house. You're infectious before you're symptomatic so if it is coronavirus you've almost certainly all got it anyway. Don't make it worse for yourself/DC.

So basically we’re all fucked, make the best of it?

You can't all quarantine in the same house. It's only DH you actually need to protect as he's at risk. The rest of you will almost definitely be fine, even if you have the CV.

I mean you can't quarantine away from each other. Obviously as a household you can quarantine

So basically we’re all fucked, make the best of it?

Yes, pretty much. Just try and do your best.

Try to limit contact with your DH as he's obviously at higher risk, but otherwise just live as normally as possible.

My DH brought CV home from London and it was obvious that I was going to get it, didn't even think of trying to keep separate, as by the time his fever started I knew I'd already have it lurking.

DH is the one with major symptoms (unsurprisingly) so no use staying away now.

Your 12 year old is old enough to look after their younger siblings while you are unwell.