AIBU to not take my son for his 8 week jabs..

[Princesaebs]

My son is due for his 8 week jabs in two weeks and with this virus going around I honestly do not want to take him..the gp is just across the street and I would wrap him up& I would wear a mask and gloves. But what about when we get inside the gp. I'm meant to strip his legs down for the jabs...symptoms take 7 days to show. What if the doctor has the virus and doesn't yet know and is breathing over my baby. If he was to get sick I would NOT take him to the hospital. For them to separate us & tell me I cannot see him?? No way I would keep him home and give him calpol before I let them separate me from my baby. I feel like it's a big risk taking my son out to the doctors surgery to get immunisations. I know it's important..to protect baby from other viruses..flu etc. My 16 month old has had all of his jabs. I haven't left my house in 2 weeks..and my partner hasn't been at work either for the past week although he is a key worker.we have been completely self isolating for the sake of our kids. Am I being unreasonable to think I shouldn't take my son for his jabs? Am I being stupid ? I feel like it is a VERY big risk and wouldn't forgive myself god forbid my baby got sick afterwards

I had my one year old’s jabs done yesterday. You had to buzz to get into the surgery, the chairs in the waiting room were spaced two metres apart and there was one other patient there (on the other side of the room). The reception was behind a barricade! The nurse who did the jab was in mask and gloves and honestly it felt like they had taken every possible precaution. Also my GP has been instructing people with symptoms not to come in and doing phone appointments for weeks. They also called us on the day to check we didn’t have any symptoms before the appointment.

If you’re worried I would speak to your GP on the phone but I’m personally glad to have got this done and protected my baby from other diseases (especially those that are much more serious statistically for infants).

I have delayed my 3yo daughters booster imms for a few months, as with things the way they are, she's far more likely to get coronavirus than say measles. She will get the booster jabs as soon as things calm down.

In your position I'd delay it, but like everything else you have to risk assess it.

The last thing the NHS needs is a bad year for whooping cough.

Last time we had a bad year, 14 babies too young to be vaccinated died. And those babies weren't being touted round and recklessly exposed.

I'd trust a vaccine over shielding any day

That NHS is still doing them, and strongly urging people to attend, shows you how very important they see it.

Protect the NHS, follow preventative medical advice

My grandchild had their 8 week vaccinations this morning.
My daughter took them and had to text from her car when they arrived. She then got a text back when it was their turn to go in. She had to use a side door, her and the baby were given masks to wear and she had to put on gloves. She only saw two other people - the person who let her in (receptionist maybe) and the nurse who did the jabs. Both were wearing masks, gloves and aprons.
When she got home she put hers and baby’s clothes in the wash and they both had a good wash.
She did phone yesterday to ask if she should delay the vaccinations but the surgery was adamant that they are essential and that everything would be done to minimise any risks.

Thanks @treetop - I've jus looked into it! She's booked in for May - I was also expecting the BCG before she left hospital but they booked her in when she was 3 months old at the hospital but through a clinic (all other vaccines are done at my local doctor). I don't know why it wasn't done before we left but I would have preferred it - I didn't want to take her to the March appointment as there was confirmed cases of COVID19 at the local hospital and the nurse who did her 12 week jabs the week before had said it would be fine to postpone as we weren't traveling anytime soon. Reading these news articles I'm kicking myself a little!

It's rebooked for May so I will definitely be taking her then - hopefully as I have had it too I will also have some resistance as I am really concerned of getting sick myself and having to avoid her - I just can't see a way I could not come into contact with her for 14 days. (Or even one day)

My baby is only 9 days old but my opinion on this is quite the opposite. I'm far more worried about her not having her vaccinations. Of course I do not want her getting CV, of course I don't, but all the evidence suggests that IF she did, she would suffer only a very minor illness. If she were to contract one of the conditions she's due to be immunised against, she would be far more poorly and that frightens me more than the risk of CV. So I will of course take every precaution but it's my view that the immunisations are a priority for her.

All evidence so far suggests Covid-19 affects children and infants very mildly if at all. Im really not anxious for my young children. In fact I assume they will get it at some point this year. I’m taking my baby for her 8 week jabs tomorrow as they vaccinate against serious illnesses that pose a real threat to her long term health. Please speak to a hcp about your anxiety. It seems to be affecting your ability to risk assess.

The problem is that many things like measles are completely airborne, meaning you only have to breathe in the air in a room that someone carrying measles has been in, and you have a high chance of catching it. So even if your son is not around other children he could catch something when you are out of the house doing something essential.

My own two children both came down with a (vaccine preventable) childhood illness recently, despite not being around other children. As they were vaccinated they only got very mild cases, but it was unmistakable. Stuff still gets passed around, especially since some things are more infectious than CV.

The hospitals don't need outbreaks of childhood illnesses as well right now, so I would take him for the shots. You could wear a mask and put the rain cover down over the pram if it makes you feel safer. Babies are overwhelmingly very safe from the virus in any case! While you are there, ask the doctor who to talk to about anxiety as you do sound very worried. It will all be OK!

Do you have a garden or balcony? It is very important for your baby's health and eyesight development that he gets outdoor time and direct daylight.

Give op a break... Worried about her mental health!! Bugger off.

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Nobody is bitching at the OP, quite the reverse. We're expressing concern. Her anxiety sounds like it is really bad and causing her problems so we are encouraging her to think about this and seek some help.

Thanks for all your responses. I am going to take him to get his vaccinations.
Those who are saying I'm mental you can all fuck off IM SCARED for my son. I simply asked for advice and I've heard news of people getting separated from their child. Okay maybe it's not true. But if my child contracted this virus and was separated from me and sadly didn't survive I would be distraught if I wasn't with him during his dying days. I know I'm thinking extreme but you never know what will happen. I'm not crazy or mentally unstable! I do want what's best for my son. My 16 month old had all his immunisations. Please people stop trying to make me feel like shit! I was just asking for some advice thank you all those who gave a good response :). The rest of u saying I'm mental can fucking do one

Also I do have a balcony I've been sitting outside with my partner and the kids daily to get fresh air but haven't actually left the house since 15th March

@freshairimportantoo thank you!!!!

I don't need to seek any help. I am not mad. I've never experienced anything like this before and I don't know what to think!!! I just want what is best for my son!

Those who are saying I'm mental you can all fuck off IM SCARED for my son.

Lots of people have issues with their mental health during the early months of being a mum. Calling anyone 'mental' or 'crazy' is completely different to being concerned about someone's health. It's OK to get some support when you're not feeling OK. And being scared during a pandemic is normal too. Saying you'd deny medical care to you child is not. That why I was concerned.

No need for the fuck offs.

OP no one was saying you're mental, they were saying they're concerned for your mental health! PND and PNA are very very common, and probably only made worse by this pandemic, its completely reasonable that people flagged that up for you. Please don't write it off, there is help available to you if youre feeling very anxious and afraid.

Side note, it is INCREDIBLY offensive to assume that suffering from anxiety means that you're "mental" - please check your thinking on that one.

I don't think anyone called you mental.

A few of us voiced our concerns about your mental health. That is not the same thing as calling you mental.

Saying that if your child got sick you wouldn't take them to the hospital is not a normal thing to say or do. I understand that you are worried and anxious about your DC getting ill. That's a normal way to feel.

Please don't write off what myself and other posters have said. It was not meant in a nasty way.

I'm glad you are taking your child to get their jabs but you have a really appalling attitude towards mental health. You need help with that. There is nothing wrong with being mental - as you do charmingly put it. How will you react in a few years if one of your children wants to talk to you because they're suffering with their mental health? It's just as important as physical health.

No one under 12 has died from cv. Babies have died from all the things your baby will be vaccinated against. You should still go. Also please take your baby to hospital if you have concerns. They won't take your baby away from you.

If your surgery advises to go ahead, get them done. They will have strict procedures in place, as people have described on this thread. We’re due some in 3 weeks & I wil be going.
Ring ahead and ask, once they’ve explained what they do it may reassure you.
Your baby still needs to be protected against things other than Coronavirus, and there are reasons that immunisations are timed in specific ways.

But if my child contracted this virus and was separated from me and sadly didn't survive I would be distraught if I wasn't with him during his dying days.

Pretty sure that most of us wouldn't want this!

Well what a delight you turned out to be. I can now see the irrational behaviours mentioned in your first post are clearly down to your stupidly and not your mental health.

Lots of people with a young baby find their anxieties go into over drive due to hormones and PND. Posters were simply concerned about you and advised you sought help. It is now obvious that this isn’t need, no amount of mental health support will turn you into a rational and polite individual!

I took my baby to have her 12week jabs yesterday. I didn't have to interact with anyone apart from the nurse who was wearing a mask/gloves. She also gave me a mask to wear.

I just took DD for her MMR. We sat in car till appointment time, went in through a side door, and saw no one expect the nurse. Hands sanitised, she was wearing PPE, jabs done and then straight out again.

No one was calling you 'mental' but you're displaying some disordered thinking and given you are post-partum then PPA is a possibility.

Our DS went for preschool boosters this week, I was really concerned but the surgery were very good and no one was allowed to wait inside.

The only thing now is he's developed a fever today which is totally normal and now we all have to isolate for 14 days. Even though it's 99% sure to be due to the vaccine.