Not sure what to do

[Bouncealot]

DH and adult DD have just driven 15 miles to a relative who is supposed to be self isolating, due to direct contact with a corona victim within last 14 days, to mend a machine. Pictures posted on social media of them all inside their house and bouncing baby on lap and drinking tea. I’m gutted. So angry and when they returned asked why they felt it was ok when whole country on lockdown and I’m an essential worker., told I was over reacting. Have now left house and don’t know what to do.

Oh dear, sounds very careless of them.

Was the machine at least essential and did it require two people to mend it?

I agree with you OP. It may have been essential for them to go (if it was an essential machine like a refrigerator) but they still should have practised social distancing while there to repair it. The relative should have stayed in a different room and not even interacted with them at all. Did they know ahead of time that the relative was going to break isolation if they went there?

Did they do any decontamination when they got home? Like NHS workers do. You know, strip put clothes in bag, go shower, dump clothes in washer, wash hands. Etc.

It was a lawnmower and I was laughed at when I tried to insist they washed their hands. I’m distraught. DH knows much better than this, but I’m being made to feel I’m overreacting

Am I overreacting? Need moral support

You're not over-reacting!

Is this out of character for him?

I would say yes he is usually v moral/ law abiding, but tends to be under brother’s influence. It’s more the refusal to accept he was in the wrong and breaking the rules which made me angry. Not sure if we should all be isolating and not going to work now.