Family dilemma- help!

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Apologies for long post, am seeking advice re my DB.
He has cerebral palsy & severe asthma. Lives alone 2miles from our DP with carer visits am & pm, currently working from home. DP both 70+ & heavy smokers, DM has COPD.

I live 70 miles away (no car) with DH, DD 4, DS 11months. NHS worker but from home now due to severe asthma. Our house has no bathroom downstairs so he couldn't live here.

I seem to be the only one in the family thinking about DB being at risk from carer visits (tho they wear PPE) & what would happen if he became ill. I queried weeks ago with DP & DB whether he should move back in with our DP (adapted.ground floor bedroom and bathroom) whilst risk was lower - silence all round (family tend towards an ignore & it will go away /leave everything to me approach).

I've already asked him to register as vulnerable with gov site & tell social worker & care agency about the above, as well as sending me details of social worker, care agency, medications. I've helped find details of local community support, registering for supermarket deliveries etc.

Obviously if he gets the virus I'm the least vulnerable person & would need to care for him, but this would mean being away from DC for many weeks or more & delivering personal care with no PPE. I'm also fearful re what would happen if I become unwell and unable to care for him/myself.

I can't see an answer or way forward, but any advice from you wise lot would be very welcome.

From your description, it sounds as if he is better staying where he is rather than moving in with your DP's.

There is an element of risk from carer visits but probably less risk than being with 2 elderly, heavy smokers.

It sounds as if he has a reasonable care package in place and now would not be a good time to disrupt that.

You're also assuming that if he contracts the virus, you would be in a position to assist him but, you may well have contracted the virus yourself by then.
Leave well alone would be my advice, but continue to provide moral support from a distance.
He's lucky to have you as his sister.

Thank you Wingedharpy, it's so useful to get an objective opinion!

It's kind of you to think of doing his care, but please give that idea up. You would have to prioritise yourself and your two young children. He would continue to get care unless he became so unwell he had to go to hospital and then you couldn't do it anyway. I agree with @Wingedharpy that he is better where he is than with your parents.

Is the NHS worker with severe asthma your partner or you?