Would you allow contact in these circumstances

[cheeseandcrackers88]

Separated parents. 2 dc. I am residential parent. As of last week me and my dp and ex and his dp have all been working from home and not seeing anyone outside of the home. Only going out to go shopping.

Ex and I have disagreed over contact. I would prefer dc to stay home until this blows over. He says that because we are all isolating there is little risk and he doesn't want to go weeks or months without contact. My dp and ex's wife both have asthma.

Wwyd?

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I think I would allow contact. If signs of a cold or high temp then o but sounds reasonable to do so at mo.

I'd definitely allow contact.

Allow contact, no reason not to, and they’ve said travel between two parents is fine for a child

I'd also allow contact. They are not in the shielded category.

you should share contact

I'm in the same situation and agree with your ex. DD still goes to her DF overnight twice a week. We are both live alone and have been WFH for 2 weeks already. She goes between the 2 homes via car. Whoever has her overnight keeps her the next day so the other parent can properly WFH and she gets brought back in the evening. 10 minute car journey.

@JeSuisPrest yes our situation will be a similar arrangement. I think while we are all isolating it seems fairly safe. Just such an unsettling time it's hard to know what to do for the best.

Same situation here, my ex and I didn't even discuss it; it was just assumed that DS would be here with me until everything calms down.

I think it would be different if any of us were still working or seeing people outside of the home. Some of our extended family are key workers and I won't be seeing them. But with mine and my ex's households being in similar states of isolation he seems to think they the risk is small and 'worth it if it means he can see his kids...or do I just not see them for 6 months?' (his words). My gut feeling is to want them here with me but I'm not sure that that's a logical response to the situation or an emotional one! Just trying to take everything into account and make the right choices for the kids and both families.

Contact with the non resident parent is one of the specific exclusions from the requirement to stay at home. I'd therefore say it's been classified as essential and unless there is a very good reason or it's specifically agreed that it won't happen, it should take place as normal.

I don't see any justification for you to prevent contact.

I would allow contact, as all have been isolating.

Turn it on its head @cheeseandcrackers88 what if the kids had been with him when the lock down started. Would you have said hang onto them until this is over and I'll see them in a couple of months? Probably not. I think the risk really is minimal in the set up you have described. He loves them as much as you and would not (I hope) expose them to any extra risk. It's really tough, and times like this bring out our irrational side of just wanting to lock out the world and hunker down until it's a safe place to be again 🌻

Thanks all this has helped me feel a little less uneasy about it.