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Older parent not coping

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HTruffle · 29/03/2020 13:39

Could I please ask your collective wisdom on what to do in this situation? I feel absolutely stuck and would welcome opinions.

We are a family of 4, two kids under 5. Eldest obviously not at school. My mum lives one mile away, lives alone and is aged 70. She is not really coping with the current situation. Finding it very stressful, lonely, isolated and heading towards depression. She is reasonably fit and well and exercises regularly but mentally is rather fragile - forgetful, easily confused, struggles with anything other than the basics really, for example, would miss appointments if not written down. Whether this is early dementia or just aging I am not sure but largely irrelevant for the moment I guess.

She has been quite open about the fact she is not coping and in her words thinks she would have a breakdown if has to self-isolate for 12 weeks. It’s only been one and she’s in a right state. She misses the kids hugely who she’d normally see frequently.

WWYD? It’s a possibility for her to move in with us temporarily albeit a squash. We are not going anywhere apart from daily walks and staying away from others. She is doing the same and has been for a week.

I don’t think her coming to us daily for visits is advisable or allowed? but as a vulnerable person can we move her in? Can anyone think of what we can realistically do?

Feeling totally stuck. Thanks for any help.

OP posts:
GalileoGalileo · 29/03/2020 13:43

I would self-isolate as a family for 2 weeks (you may have already some of that under your belt) then move her in with you if none of you are showing symptoms. 12 weeks is a very long time to be on your own, and who's to say it won't be longer!

Ihatesundays · 29/03/2020 13:52

I agree with PP. if you can move her in I would.
My NDN was at her sons last Friday when the schools closed (she looks after his children and stays regularly). She is now home alone for the future. I have no idea why they didn’t make her stay. They are an hour away and she is on her own

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