Co Parenting during lockdown

[Concernedmum80]

I’m after some advice please. My dd’s dad and I are divorced so we co parent. I’m now working from home but he is still going to work on public transport (railways) as he is a key worker. He regularly travels up to London and back for his job. So far I’ve kept dd with me but it’s a challenge whilst home working. He wants to have her on his days off and dd wants to go with him but I’m concerned as he is exposed to many people in his job and may have the virus even though he has no symptoms. What do you think?

Just no.
I’ve said my ex can have ours once he’s stopped going out for two weeks

Id say no, facetime and skype are good x

My kids dad is a doctor in ITU. He is high risk, but he also has a right to see his kids and they are desperate to see him after a week of self isolation so far. It’s bad enough for them as it is with all the change without also stopping them from seeing their dad.

Nope.

My son is still seeing his dad. Ourselves and his dads household are taking all possible precautions. No one in his dads household works so this helps. One key worker in ours (supermarket). My son is a huge daddys boy and would be very very upset if he couldn't see him. There are other factors as well. It's not a black and white situation.

To add, in your shoes I wouldn't because of the work in London and use of public transport.

In this scenario probably not because of your ex travelling, working and coming into contact with lots of people.

I am currently debating the same with my ex. Personally I think dc should just stay home with me but I understand that he still wants to see them and with no end in sight it doesn't seem fair to cut contact completely. It's a bit easier because everyone in both families are now isolating and working from home. So the risk is smaller.

I think the government are hoping that parents will assess their personal circumstances and risk factors and come to the right decisions. Some will, some won't.

To add my dc are 6 and 8 so old enough to tell me their opinions too which I try to take into account. They have brothers and sisters at their dads who they want to see too.

Is it worth asking them how they feel about it?

My son will be going to his dads next Sunday for a week.