Childcare question - WWYD?

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I could do with some perspective on which of these is the best option. Even some 'what part of social isolation don't you understand' and a unanimous answer will help!

I live alone with a 3 year old, and we've stopped all contact with anyone, even daughters dad as he has health issues - he thought I was overreacting but understood and has been FaceTiming etc.

I work for a Local Authority. The work I am doing is not essential at moment so manager has been very understanding this week I've done less and caught up a bit in evenings. My daughter can be transfixed by various Peppa shows for 45 minutes at a time so I've managed to do a bit in the day, but equally there has been lots of clamouring for attention.

From Tuesday I will be getting training to support an essential team who are struggling with the extra workload, and will then be talking directly to stressed and vulnerable people (hopefully in a specific fashion i.e. asking them to supply a missing document).

I only ever had a childminder for 2 days a week with family helping me with the rest. The childminder is still happy to take her. I am paying her regardless.

My mum is in one of the shut down industries so is not currently working and is happy to provide a large amount of childcare. She lives alone and is seeing no one outside of necessity such as shopping. My mum is in 50's with no health problems.

My last option is to tell work I can't take on the changed role as they are only asking people they think are able to do this - I do want to help if I can.

A - continue to work as best as able with daughter at home
B - use childminder for 2 days a week
C - use mum to help
D - tell work I can't help with the changed role

I think if your mum would like to have your Dd for company it will be far less likely to spread than if she's at childminder with others but only if your mum wants to.

Your mum isn't official childcare and doesn't live with you so isn't part of your household.

So by government guidelines you have to go with the childminder for the 2 days a week plus you are already paying her. Check how many children she is actually having and if you can what jobs the parents do. She may be having no other children.

Can your mum not move in with you just now? Helps with childcare and gives you both some company?

@nevisbump she's got a dog and neither of us have a spare bed or bedroom.. I did think about it. If I moved to hers i'd be sleeping on her sofa, then walking the short distance back to mine to get changed and work most days which seems like so much of a technicality I might as well live at mine!

Thanks for replying all, its appreciated.

Your mum. Much better option. Government guidelines are just that: guidelines. It would work better for your mum, your daughter and you to have her mind your daughter. It's a 2 + 1 household not any of the messy permutations often mentioned on here. So long as you and your mum realise that every person you each come in contact with is a possible carrier to the other two at home.

thank you @BorrestGump - I feel it does make sense, but strongly aware that what a surprise, I want to pick the solution that benefits me way more than the other options do so not trusting my judgement.

Childminder is a no-go. Too risky for CoVid speed with other children and other people in childminders household.

I'd go with Mum too. Less risky overall and your dd will be good company for your dm.

I would definitely say mum, provided that she is happy. It is much the safest and best option!

Your mum isn't official childcare and doesn't live with you so isn't part of your household

So by government guidelines you have to go with the childminder for the 2 days a week plus you are already paying her. Check how many children she is actually having and if you can what jobs the parents do. She may be having no other children

This is nonsensical. Your mum, who has no other contacts, is the lowest risk option for you and DD. With regard to risk to others, you’d be transferring the risk of contaminating others from the childminder to your mum, which is neutral (and also very low, given your isolation).

I'd go with your DM over the CM.