Confused on what's best...

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My son lives with me (he's 7) DH daughters don't. He's still having them round on a Thursday and Saturday into Sunday despite all the info ref social distancing etc.
My ex (sons dad) has severe asthma - Corona would more than likely kill him.
Explained to husband I didn't think it wise his daughters coming round given what's going on and risk them passing it to my son then his dad - husband went mental, wasn't going to be dictated to my my ex (he's dictated to by his ex, the irony!) and his kids are still coming over. I'm freaking out, told my Son he can't go to his dads for weeks now cause I can't risk it.
Am I being too paranoid?!?

Why does contact between your son and his father trump that of your husband and his daughters?

He has as much right to see his girls as your ex does his son - health issues or not. I'm not surprised your husband wasn't happy.

I think the fairest way all round would be to postpone all contact between children and the NRP until the lockdown is over.

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Agree, why can you and your son not social distance but he and his daughters have to? It is allowed for children from split families to see both parents. If you ex is at risk then surely he should be avoiding all contact with others.

If your ex has severe asthma he should be shielding surely, so assuming your household isn't contact would be ill advised anyway I think.

So is your son still seeing his dad?

If your ex has severe asthma he should be isolating and not seeing his DS right now anyway.

You can see why your husband would be annoyed that you told him he shouldn’t see his kids so you could facilitate your ex seeing yours. It’s not really fair. I don’t think your son should be seeing your ex if he has bad asthma - can you switch to FaceTime etc? I appreciate it’s not great but might be safer for a while.

Have you discussed with your son's dad how he feels about continued face to face contact, ie whether he would prefer to stop it for a while or is willing to take the risk? You need to be upfront with him about what contact your household is having with others, eg your husband's daughters coming in, so that he can make a realistic assessment of the risk.

My son isn't seeing his dad for weeks, it was he either stayed with me or his dads, thought the whole idea of lockdown was to stop people coming and going into your house? Either all in or all out?
My ex understands that my son going back and forth isn't the best idea for anyone and it's putting my son at risk - hence why now he's not.
My husband wasn't happy as he hates my ex (he doesn't like the fact I have a civil relationship with him and actually parent our son together)
Just to clarify I haven't told my husband he can't have his kids over, I talked about my concerns and he made his own call.
Personally I think it's a selfish call - if my son staying at his dads for weeks without contact with me meaning my son was safe I'd do it in a heartbeat regardless of my selfish need to see him.