Am I being selfish having shopping delivered?

[Somethingsosimple]

Managed to secure regular shops to be delivered from Waitrose before things went crazy. We are a family of 4 but I am also topping up my parents and 97 years old grandmothers shopping to prevent them running out. A friend said to me the other day that she thinks online shops should only be for vulnerable. Should I be cancelling my shops to give them to someone else? I’m a mild asthmatics but don’t come under the vulnerable bracket. Did check with my immediate neighbours too before last shop but wondering if I am being unreasonable and shouldn’t shop online going forward.

Well, it sounds like your 1 on-line shop is servicing 3 households so, the alternative view is that you're contributing to the cause by helping reduce the number of people out shopping.
Your friend is perfectly entitled to her opinion but the view you see depends on where you're standing.
Maybe she doesn't have other family members to support.
Personally, I wouldn't cancel your booked shops.

I also have an online shop booked and don't fall under the vulnerable category, however I am also shopping for my elderly parents, my even more elderly parents in law and another relative and her family who are all stuck inside for 12 weeks due to health problems.
If I didn't have this slot that would be three extra households all looking for slots which would clog the system even more. As it is, I will be doorstep dropping food to them all for most of the afternoon with my baby in tow. I couldn't cope with physically going to the shop with DD and purchasing food for four households and then delivering it.

I thought all asthmatics were automatically vulnerable and those with severe asthma were the next category up, which is “high risk” or “most vulnerable” depending on which document you read.
You are still vulnerable, just not one of the most vulnerable who have to shield.
As is your 97 yr old GM who is also benefits from your shopping.

I’d tell your friend that you ARE one of the vulnerable and to mind her own business.

No you are fine.

We aren't vulnerable either but we also don't drive so would have to walk to the supermarket and just grab as much as I could carry. I do feel guilty but the alternative is that I make 3 shopping trips a week, adding to the queues and increasing everyone's exposure risk. I've offered to add stuff to our delivery for vulnerable people in our neighbourhood as well to make up for it. If I had a car and could just go once a week to do a big shop instead then I would. Don't feel bad, we're all just trying to muddle through this as best we can.

No you are not being selfish. I am doing the same

I'm not classed as vulnerable. I'm over 80, non-driver, use a walking frame. But ,thankfully, don't have any of the horrendous health conditions listed. I'm fortunate that my elder daughter lives reasonably near,and has been able to bring some shopping.

This crossed my mind as I too secured a recurring slot however in doing so I am not taking the piss by still going out in between to shops etc. we are fully locked down and if we run out of something, we go without until the next shop. I also shop for my vulnerable parents and do a shout out on a community page to my neighbours if they want anything ordering at which point I sanitise the item and place it at the end of my driveway for collection. I'm still limited to 3 things per item (Asda) but its working so far and keeps my anxiety down as I do feel supermarkets will be a hotbed for transmission.

If the stats are looking good for my families age group in the next few weeks I will give my slot up and start going out in person.

Also in the same boat. I think after the booked slot I have I won't be able to get another one. Am stretching food as far as I possibly can. Am only buying what I need. Have also offered help to neighbours. We are isolating for as long as we possibly can. DD has a sore throat and temp.
I feel guilty.

I have a slot next week I had booked over a month ago for my big 3 monthly heavy shop.

I'm not vulnerable and I'm fit and healthy, have a car etc. However, I'm doing shopping for my sister who has lost her job and has 3 kids to feed, my elderly parents who are isolating, and I've offered to get stuff to my neighbours too.

I've accepted I'm unlikely to get any further slots, but I'm doing multiple shops for multiple people. As PP have said, this then leaves more slots for others and more room in the supermarkets.

I think it's only selfish if you have a slot and you are only using for yourself when you really don't need to. Otherwise it's fine.

Am in the vulnerable category, needing to shop for someone else in the vulnerable category and there are no slots left anywhere. Sigh. Tescos most recent email said they're trying to generate more delivery capacity, but right now when Boris or anyone else says 'people in this category, don't go out, get deliveries' I roll my eyes. Yeah, would love to!

You need those slots for a couple of reasons OP, it's just a total bugger that there isn't yet the capacity or means to set aside additional slots for those who shouldn't be going to walk around a supermarket.

I have three slots booked for next three weeks. I have a car and I am not vulnerable. I feel guilty but if I cancel my slot it will likely be taken by another person like me. So I keep them.

I dont think you are at all... Boris said everyone...not just the vulnerable... but everyone... should be getting shopping delivered I stead of going into shops where possible... you could look at it the other way round as the more people pile into those shops the more the virus spreads so the more you are putting vulnerable people at risk..
I've had one big supermarket shop delivered last week (a lot of which didnt come) .. and topping up weekly with a local farm delivery of veg and potatoes and cheese and the milkman bringing milk and eggs

Have no clue what I'm going to do about toilet roll lol!! Got some boxes of tissues which I'll move onto when the rolls run out (6 left family of four...)
Planning to stay in my house away from people as much as possible for the next three weeks... husband is a nurse so I think it's for the best.

I wouldnt call ANYONE selfish for having their shopping delivered at a time like this... unless they were hoarding lost of slots for months and bulk buying stuff they didnt need.... but you cant really do that any more as supermarkets arent letting you book more than two weeks in advance anyway

Maybe. My parents are self isolating and finding it difficult to get slots and don’t have family nearby.
Me and my husband are taking turns to go to the supermarket.

I have three slots booked for next three weeks. I have a car and I am not vulnerable. I feel guilty but if I cancel my slot it will likely be taken by another person like me. So I keep them.

This thinking prevents people doing the generous thing, but I'm not criticising because sadly it's far too true.

OP you're shopping for those who are vulnerable and you have always shopped online. You also have asthma. There are lots of people who have suddenly decided to take slots even though they are perfectly healthy. Personally, I think that's selfish. If I were able to get a slot, I would use it for someone I know to be more vulnerable. (I'm pregnant but there are so many more vulnerable than me.)

I have been having he same dilemma. Mine is click and collect, and I a, ordering for three households. Parents over seventy and I am self isolating due to symptoms and a compromised immune system.

I would take a delivery slot, but I am consoling myself that click and collect isn’t as in demand as the deliveries.