Please help!

[rusty1205]

I’m hoping someone can give me some advice as I’m so confused.

In my house it’s just me and my son however we go and visit my mom every day (even before the outbreak). We have been staying in my house since Tuesday but we have the option to go and stay at my mom’s house meaning only one person has to go to a shop (if needed) and that I have help with my son if needed. I know this isn’t what we have been advised to do however we have even here every day before this got really bad and there is no one who lives in my moms who is high risk or elderly. I feel staying at my mum’s is the safest option for the next 3 weeks (or until we don’t have to stay at home) but my head is all over the place and worried. Would anyone stay at home or go to their moms?

Also to add; I’m not in employment just now and I am on housing benefit. Do you think this would be effected if I’m not at home or would the current circumstances allow me to stay away from home until the current restrictions are lifted?

Any help is really appreciated. Thanks x

I'm not seeing a pressing need for you to do this. I get why you want to, absolutely! But from what you're describing, neither your household nor your mum's really needs additional care or support at this time - so it would be more about it being nicer for you. And, this could go on for a long time - so, again, while I get why you'd not want to have to be away from your mum for ages (just like everyone would like to be around friends and family if they could), I don't think committing to moving there for an indefinite period, presumably only taking minimal stuff with you, is the best plan here. I think you'd do better to look into how you can maintain contact with her from a distance.

I think this is a sensible solution to be fair. Stops the daily trips to your mothers, and reduces the shopping need.

Is it just your Mum at her home or are there other people who live there too?
Is your Mum over 65?

Thank you for the responses so far. I forgot to add that also with us being here every day does us not isolating together also help stop the risk of passing on the virus if we have all been in contact every day? Keeping it to one household as my mom hasn’t been near my house. For me my problem is being a single parent I don’t have anyone to sit with my son if I need to go out to get essentials and I really do not want to take him near any shops etc. I also don’t want anyone coming to the house to sit with him while I go.

It’s my mum and sister. My sister is in her teens and my mum is under 65 (she’s 50) x

Op, there has to be an element of common sense applied to the rules. It is clearly better if you all isolate together, as you need to pop round there daily and are alone with your child, it lessons the risk if only one has to go out shopping, it is also probably better for your mental health.

So whereas strictly not compliant with the rules, for me, I think it’s the optimal solution for you all.

I think it is okay to merge households and isolate together. Is it a major upheaval to relocate? And what happens if it needs to be more than 3 weeks?

If moving in with your mum means you are still popping home eg to get mail, to check your property is ok, to pick up different clothes during to a change in weather, then do that by car and avoid busier times of day.