Key workers should know better!!!

[BlingLoving]

Dh and I are really annoyed because on our street we have two families with key workers. Between them, they have 5 children, all nursery/primary school age. Both key workers are the women and their DHs are not .

They have got places for their children at school, even though their husbands are working from home.

They are also, to further reduce impact on the poor little husbands with such busy jobs, sharing school runs and collections. Yesterday I sqe dad 1 with 3 of the five children, 2 of his and 1 from the other family, coming back from school together and he took the 1 to the other house. Where the other 2 kids were I couldn't say and dread to think.

Of course have to support key workers. But surely their bloody husbands should be stepping up first before we put other children, teachers etc at risk. And sharing collection of kids?!

I'm bumping this because I'm interested if we are being too mean in our irritation.

I mean this in the nicest way, this shitstorm is going to be so much worse if you let yourself get irritated about other people making decisions that you wouldn't.

Let it go, the anger is not worth it and there is far, far too much anger and judgement going on as it is.

Focus instead on keeping your family safe and happy.

It is difficult to WFH with children though. Mine are over primary school age but I get the odd interruption here and there, about their school work, so it must be even more difficult with primary.

I know someone who's dh is a keyworker but she doesn't work at all, but thinks it's better for their dc to go to school than stay at home. I really want to say something...

Men can't possibly be expected to take care of their own children. Heaven forbid

t is difficult to WFH with children though..

Yes, we're all aware of that. And all those families where there are no key workers are still making it work. Because the children should be kept at home if they possibly can.

this shitstorm is going to be so much worse if you let yourself get irritated about other people making decisions that you wouldn't.

This isn't about deciding whether to send kids to private or state school. It's about people taking decisions that are directly contrary to what will be the most safe for them and their broader communities. Which, in turn, will affect the rest of us as we will all be in lock down for longer, we'll have more sick people at the same time etc etc.

I do think that a bit like Brexit, when this is over, we'll all look around and work out who are "our" people - who are the people who have the same moral code as us and who are the ones who frankly we'd rather avoid indefinitely.

I am trying to WFH. Impossible with my 3 yo. Impossible. i can't type, can't make phonecalls. My partner has a role where he spends the whole day on his laptop- when I had to go for a medical appointment, he struggled for 2 hours. The only reason things work is because I can do my thing very early in the morning, at lunchtime and in the evening when he finishes. We have to alternate. Depending on your child, not all can actually work from home and do their job properly and not all employers are understanding!

I would be ringing the school personally. As an education key worker I would not be pleased with people putting our health at risk so casually.

This pisses me off. I have a severely learning disabled DC. Their school is closed other than for families where BOTH parents are key workers. I’m shocked that mainstream settings are still accepting children where only one parent is key.

It’s all very well saying other families make it work, but everyone I know with two parents wfh have had the lower paid parent take time off unpaid. Without fail, the key worker is nearly always the lower paid parent. So either the children go to school or you’ll lose a key worker.

I also don’t see the harm in walking the children hone together when they’ve just spent all day together at school...

This isn't about deciding whether to send kids to private or state school. It's about people taking decisions that are directly contrary to what will be the most safe for them and their broader communities. Which, in turn, will affect the rest of us as we will all be in lock down for longer, we'll have more sick people at the same time etc etc.

You asked for an opinion and the other poster gave it [shrug]

I'm interested if we are being too mean in our irritation.

I think you are - I think many people are right now.

BlingLoving

You said you are posting to get a gist whether you’re over exaggerating, yet you’ve argued with those that said you are. If you’re really posting for that reason, just sit back and let the responses roll in.

What you’re doing shows that you’re not posting for that reason at all. You’re posting for people to tell you you’re right.

Talk about this crap with your husband or you’re friends.

Well, I am genuinely interested in people who disagree with me, and why. But you're right, I'm very unlikely to change my mind and do think it's wrong!

I'd just focus on your own family right now. Can't control what others do

Their children would be safer at home. (Worries teacher who has been in school for two days this week and no, rules are not being followed by parents)

I know life is boring right now, but step away from your window.

I remember I commented to a friend once about a neighbour not following the rules (communal drive way) and she said "just keep your side of the street clean"

It was really good advice at the time but also has stuck me in lots of situations since. It doesn't matter what the fucks going on around me I always try and just take care of what I'm responsible for, and not over step the boundary and get in other people's shit.

Not going to have an opinion of whether the kids should have a place or not at school however I assume the children will be mixing at school anyway so I'm not actually sure sharing collection is going to make much of a difference in that regard