I’m considered to be very high risk do to health issues. I have been advised to be “shielding” and not going out for 12 weeks or people come into the home. Myself and husband have children together and he has some from a previous relationship. Both sets of children have been unwell over the past week or two so he’s be ok to isolate as per guidance. Now however, as we get closer to the isolation being over and the new guidance said children can move between homes he wants them to come as normal to stay on their agreed night. I fully understand why he wants them to come and for all the children and us this would be great, however, I am extremely vulnerable to this to the point I could be extremely unwell and away from the home in hospital for a number of weeks if I contract it.
We have no real idea of the lengths their mother is taking re the lock down and in the past when I was also vulnerable (due to a different health need) has let us pick them up knowing they had a vomiting bug which of course I got and was extremely unwell). We also know despite taking them out of school before they closed due to one of the kids developing a cough she then spent the rest of the week moving around with the children as if they were not unwell.
Am I being unreasonable saying my health needs have to come first currently which means for now no visits by them to the home? I have said I understand if he wants to visit them in their garden and keep the appropriate social distance then clean down when returns as per guidance but he does not seem to think this is a reasonable request.
Thoughts?