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Self employed claiming UC in abusive relationship

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mangolin · 24/03/2020 17:39

As the title says. I'm self employed, lost all my customers due to Covid-19.

I wasn't raking it in, but it allowed me to buy essentials for me and DD.

"Partner" won't give me access to money. I've spoken to him about about losing business (40/week) and he wants me to speak to the customer and try to do the work. I can't wfh and I'm not an essential worker, so don't want to take any risks. He doesn't want me to rely on him. I've written a shopping list of essentials and he doesn't want to spend any money. Yet he's happy to spend money on himself at a take away. We are running low on food.

I cook, clean and take care of DD. He deane lift a finger. Has never cooked. Now that he's wfh I hate him even more than I did before and I want to leave the relationship.

I'm going to start sleeping on the sofa.

Would it be wrong to claim UC whilst leaving with stbxp?

OP posts:
WwfLeopard · 24/03/2020 17:41

Chuck him out, his income will affect ur claim, possibly to nill

mangolin · 24/03/2020 17:43

Not my house. He's on the tenancy

OP posts:
PlanDeRaccordement · 24/03/2020 17:44

That’s actually illegal. You can call the police and report financial abuse (type of domestic abuse) by using the 101 nonemergency number.
Here is an advice page on how to ensure the UC etc paid to your account (not his).
www.moneyadviceservice.org.uk/en/articles/protecting-against-financial-abuse

tryingtoprep · 24/03/2020 17:51

Sorry he's being such a twat OP. If you've definitely ended the relationship you can claim UC. You need to be genuinely living as separate households so that means one of you sleeping on the sofa permanently, separate food shops, cooking, separate bank accounts and all other finances. You shouldn't worry if you're truthful about the situation. Once the Covid situation calms down one of you will obviously be able to move out. It's very likely DWP will check your story out in the future. They have long memories. People have received invoices for overpaid benefits relating to years ago. Just make sure you're completely honest with them and it should be fine.

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