No partners in pregnancy appointments 😭

[DaffyTaffy24]

Anybody else just feel so incredibly crappy that they have to go to all appointments alone now?
I understand it, I really do. But I just feel so deflated that my first pregnancy is just 'something to get through' now.
No sharing scan moments with my partner. No buzz with family members, especially our baby's grandparents.
No shopping and getting prepared for baby's arrival.
I was really depending on being able to buy baby things earlier than needed so that I can get my dogs used to it all.
I know it sounds incredibly selfish, and like I say, I completely understand and would never be angry with the NHS staff or even at the measures they've put in place.
It's just not the lovely time I had imagined 😥

You are not alone. It is a very uncertain time and I feel very similar.
I support the decisions that have made wholeheartedly as we have to all do our bit. But you can't help your emotions either. Especially when pregnant!

Absolutely fine and understandable to feel the way you do Let us hope that by the time your baby is here things will have improved and you'll be able to go to baby groups together with your partner.

Try to find ways to keep excited even in these difficult times: sharing scan photos; having phone or video calls to fill everyone in on your appointments.

Perhaps you might even be able to video call with your partner during the appointment, if there's enough reception and the staff are ok with it.

Good luck with your pregnancy :)

It’s all a bit shit for everyone.

My mum is dying in a hospice and is only allowed immediate family visits - no children - from one person, for two hours a day.

She spends the rest of the day alone and will never see her grandchildren again.

It’s going to be like this until she dies.

I know it’s not much consolation, but I had terrible pregnancies that I endured and just had to ‘get through’, due to severe HG until term. I was so disappointed and look back on both as the worst periods of my life.

At least this time you’re not alone OP, although you have my sympathies. Hopefully the measures taken now will mean your baby is born into a safer world!

@ Rainallnight that is incredibly sad, sending love to you and your mum.

@ FloconDeNeige. I could have wrote your post word for word. I found out yesterday I am pregnant with my 2nd and instead of excited feelings I am consumed with anxiety of what is to come if I suffer hyperemsis full term again with a 5 year old at home. I was admitted to hospital at 7 weeks on my other pregnancy and am anxious to have to go to hospital in these times. But I am going to take it one day at a time, its all I can do.

Good luck @DaffyTaffy24 with your pregnancy, once your baba is here safe and well you won’t remember going to appointments on your own.

@Rainallnight I'm so sorry to hear that, I can't imagine how difficult that is for you and your family

I've been very much "what needs to be done needs to be done" but I'd be lying if I said it didn't bother me.
My last pregnancy ended in a TFMR at 22 weeks because of a chromosomal issue that was found at the dating scan.so I'm obviously very nervous.
My scan is next wednesday.

As it is my hospital are allowing one partner for now but I can't take him as my mom isn't meant to look after our 4yo.
So yeah, I'm trying to just get on with it.

It's completely understandable. It's dreadful DS can't have his party, or even cards and presents on his birthday in 2 days time. We can't look forward to a summer holiday as we don't dare book. Cant even enjoy the spring sunshine. Cooped up indoors most days, no family outings, nothing interesting happening no exciting events.

The thrill of a first pregnancy is something we can all remember and relate to. It's the new normal for now, and won't last forever.

@Rainallnight that's awful. I can't imagine the emotions you and your family are going through. Cherish every moment you have.

Thank you all, dya know what. I think I'm actually pretty bloody lucky to be having a pregnancy that I want to treasure. Just got to find those ways of doing it differently, like everything else in the world at the moment.

I get you @Treaclepie19, you don't want to wallow but at the same time you think 'goh this is the worst'... then shake that off and crack on. Totally what I'm trying to do too, which is why I came to mumsnet to have a whinge 🤣🤦‍♀️ we got this though, for sure!

@goldpartyhat it just seems worse when it affects the kids! They're so innocent and shouldn't have to deal with real world problems! How old is your son going to be? I hope he has the best lockdown birthday! Lots of facetime with family.

@BurpingFrog I'm shocking when it comes to letting out my emotions anyway and this overflow with the hormones is just ridiculous! Often find myself crying in the shower so partner doesn't see what a wuss I've become 🤣 you're totally right, I bet there's woman about to give birth that are anxious as hell... I'm lucky mines still tucked up with me.

Thank you so much all, you've given me the grounding that I needed!

I'm pregnant too and due in 3 weeks and feeling very nervous. I have 21 months son. What will happen when I will go into labor? We were planning to bring our son in my husband brothers house and stay with them but now I'm so confused is this possible. Can my husband be with me during delivering the baby or he needs to stay at home with our son?

They're just medical appointments op. You'll be fine

@lady321 we are dropping our 2 1/2 year old at her grandparents when we go into labour, can’t leave her home so not much choice! It’s a one off situation which is a medical emergency, don’t feel bad for that!

I get it. I've just had my second baby and am so happy but can't help but feel a bit sad that it's being overshadowed by all of this.