Those of you with teens what are your routines now,, trying to stop my teens being on screens 24/7

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Help, they’ve turned into bed hogs already.

Have they been set work by their schools?

2 are year 11, been doing bits but will dry up although they can start on future exams. So maybe we should set aside some study time. An indoor exercise routine and an outdoor one, maybe a chore time, tv and a board game session?

Is that what others are doing?

Has anybody seen a good adult teen routine?

I’ve told mine they need to be up and dressed ready to start school at 8.40. Their school is uploading a full timetable each day and they are expected to do it! One of them is struggling more with being proactive and taking responsibility for their own learning than the other (repeated cries of “but we haven’t been taught this” when it’s on the accompanying PowerPoint etc)
They’re also not allowed phones in their rooms which makes lazing in bed all day less attractive. Yes I’m mean.

Mine are doing school/college work interspersed with screen time. We have a basketball hoop in the garden, the weather has luckily been good this week, and dragged DS2 out in a bike ride with us after tea. But yes it's difficult. We have plans to paint their bedrooms on bad weather days.

Dh trying to work from gone do all downstairs for screen time not doable.😩

School work 9-12 and 2-5pm. I'm being pretty relaxed about checking what she is doing as long as she is doing something. She finished a book yesterday, which is a breakthrough as she is not a big reader despite being in a house of books , so I said she could have book 2 if she wrote a book review. Review was written 20 minutes later and she now has book 2 on her kindle. If reading is what she gets out of the next few weeks I shall be very happy.

Ds yr 13 is a bit lost, he usually goes to the gym 4 times a week, has just turned 18 so was starting to enjoy a night out and works in a pub at the weekends. It’s all been wiped out for him and with no exams to study for there’s no school work to do!
Ds 13 does have some school work but yesterday there wasn’t much set. I’m hoping he’ll get a bit more as the week goes on. He will go on a bike ride once a day to get a bit of exercise as that’s allowed.
I’m still working full time so not at home during the day to motivate them. (Single mum too)
Yesterday when I got home I played table tennis with ds13. Ds18 was playing xbox which I think he’d been on most of the day. Ds13 had made his brother lunch!

I’m going to try and get them to do jobs around the house, there’s some painting that needs doing. And the grass needs cutting......it’s certainly not the end of school time before uni ds18 was planning and I think ds13 won’t moan about school in the future!!

DS year 11. Three hours of school work a day on sixth form transition work. One run and then exercise at home as well. He is a swimmer so used to six sessions a week at pool, 2.5 hours at a time. Missing that is worse than school. Family time - jigsaws, board games etc. He’s an only child so we have always spent a lot of time as the three of us. Family nights with tv and films every night. No screen time after 7pm except to check messages pre bed. No phone in room at night - always had that rule. Up at 7.45 and bed at 9 - with his swimming hours that is a massive lie in as usually up at 4.30 three days a week. Beyond that, rest of the time on PS4 and PC so still about 4 hours a day of screen time. Works for him as swimming has forced him to timetable his life for the last 10 years. Coming in handy now!

Ah crossed posted. Yes I’m not sure what I’d do with year 11’s that were supposed to be revising for exams that now aren’t happening!

My routine for kids including teen on weekdays is
Up and ready by 9am
Exercise
Breakfast
Start school work by 10. Currently 2 sessions of 45mins.
Lunch and garden with a football and skipping rope, on phone to chat with friends
School work 45 mins from 1pm
School reading 25 mins
TV to catch up with news, watch something
Chill out with phone/friends/ games
Dinner and chill with family, catch up with messages from friends.

Chores as and when

Y12 dd trying for 9-12 school work, 12-2 exercise and lunch, 2-4 looking at uni’s, online course for a Uni etc etc

Y11 dd 9am exercise, 10-12 some form of work, hard as going onto sports btec at different school nothing set. 12-2 exercise and lunch. Afternoon teaching herself chess, fixing her bike. Anything that isn’t screen.

I was going to continue giving eldest driving lessons in the evening, guessing that’s out the window now.

I am not giving DS (year 9) a timetable as it will just drive a wedge between us and cause bad feeling and then where would we be? It's just me and him. We spent some nice time in the garden yesterday after falling out massively on Sunday. He is actually quite good at just getting on with his work independently but I know if I pushed him he would rebel.
Trying to make sure our relationship doesn't suffer is more important than school work. I work in a school and we just have work out for something to keep them busy if they want it!

Ds17 - I've asked him to put together a weekday schedule that includes work , socialising and exercise. Happy for him to start his day at 11 as it's a normal teenage rhythm, as long as he does productive things. I've stressed the importance of routine, personal hygiene, getting dressed and getting sunlight.

Will see how he gets on with self governance but if in a couple of days he hasn't stepped up we will enforce.

Re school work he seems (as ever) to be doing the bare minimum. 😒 . School doe snot seem to,have sent much but I think they are still working out what AS cancellation really means!

No screens during school hours

@cece That is simply not possible. All work is being set online. Any questions they have for the teacher online. Dd has a Snapchat group for the class so they can all discuss the work. They are isolated enough as it is. I was going to remove her phone during school hours but have decided it would be a step too far.

🤔

We've been on lockdown (in France) for over a week.

I agreed with my 2 teens (13 & 15) no screens before lunch (barring homework or lessons online).

Up and dressed by 9am (but we slipped up this morning!).

All hands on deck for ALL meals so everyone in the kitchen when it's time to cook and noone leaves til the kitchen is clean afterwards.

Some exercise every day.

It's working fine for DS1 who has lots of work from school to do.

DS2 is at a bit of a loose end - I have assigned him Anne Frank's diary to read but I think he's mostly "reading" memes on his kindle.

I have lots of ideas for projects for him but he is not that interested.

Our routine is for term time:

0815 up, showers, make beds, tidy rooms and have breakfast, dressed with hair brushed ready to work

0855 ready to work with books
0900 - 1300 on line learning with a short break in between
1300 - 1430 - lunch and walk/run with dogs
1430 - 1630 on line learning
1630 - 1730 homework
1730 making supper with me
1830 supper
1900 help tidy away and load dishwasher
1930 evening bath
2000 screen time
2045 reading kindle ready to sleep

Our plan for holidays:
Lie in to 0830 shower, dressed, beds made and rooms organised. Breakfast
0900 - 1200 school work
1230 - 1400 walk and run outside with dogs, relaxed lunch, screen time allowed. We will be doing fun stuff together every day so we will include this
1430 - 1600 school work
1600 - relax, hang out with friends on line, gardening, play garden games, art and board games
1800 cook and dinner in garden as much as possible
1900 bath
1930 family film or screen time if they prefer.

It is a good opportunity for older teens to do some extra work.

Its not the last minute in

of fun but we are making the most of it!

Wow, some of you have managed to get teens into a full on routine

Ours is up and dressed by 9am

School work 9-3.30 ish with a lunch break

That's it. I have made a daily rota of chores but I'm the only one following it so far

This week My year 11 son, has cleaned the car (in a fashion I might add) ....swept the patio (in a pathetic fashion), made lunches for us both (I’m wfh) hung washing out, learnt how to make pancakes without my help, be asked him to jet wash the patio (after I’ve done a better sweeping than him) , I’ve told him he can convert the garage into his own gum/space if he cleans and clears it out 😊 he’s had a lot of fresh air..... made me chuckle watching him trying to hang washing with one hand while watching iPad 🤪

Mine have been coaxed and dragged out of bed by 9 - and half-heartedly doing some school work on half-functioning VLEs for a couple of hours.
That is about all that we have managed today.