Dreading lockdown

[NohopeNochance]

I admit I’m not very maternal and hate being a mummy (2 children) but I’m honestly dreading this lockdown and being stuck for god knows how long with my kids in the house. I worry about my mental health and they wind me up so much and don’t give up!!
I could honestly cry thinking about it!! They usually visit their father once a week but I think Hel refuse to have them?! (No he really has to have them!!) my friends all won’t let their children go to the other parents but I honestly don’t think I will cope if they didn’t!! I was hoping the bug lockdown would happen on his night so he’d have to have them!!
As for this home schooling.....I’m not doing that!! A) I’m not clever enough and B) I want to spend as little time as poss with them!!

Why don't you send them to live with their Dad full time then? If they're this miserable for you, they will be better off with him. I assume he likes parenting?

Op would dad have them full time? Would he provide care, attention and help their learning? If so would you let him?

If dad won’t have them live with him you really need to call social services and explain how you feel to them. This isn’t a good environment for the children, they need to be elsewhere right now 😢

I think this situation will cause a lot of parents to pull there hair out, it sounds like this feeling isn’t new to you though, is there any way your partner can take them full time, possibly after this is over too. I think your children will definitely be picking up vibes from you that don’t enjoy being with them - I had that and trust me it never leaves you

The ex won’t have them, he has them one night a week and that’s that!! He couldn’t care less and if it’s causing me grief or hassle then he loves it!!

Poor kids. Neither of their parents want them.

I feel sorry for the children, now school has finished I fear there are a lot families like this.
This made me cry.

If you have no choice as your ex won't take them, then you need to plan some 'me' time everyday where they are allowed to do what they want (normally screen time) and you isolate yourself from them.
How old are they ?
Have a rough routine helps, getting up in the morning, getting dressed, a bit of school work.
Do you have an outdoor space to escape into ? Get them to run around as much as poss to burn energy.

As for this home schooling.....I’m not doing that!! A) I’m not clever enough and B) I want to spend as little time as poss with them!!

Bloody hell

OP I totally hear you. Home with my DD and my mind is looking for dark escapes from this. People can criticise but it's the reality. I have no tips but I just want you to know you're not alone.

Fucks sake those poor children. I am sorry but you are an absolute disgrace. So many kids living in loveless households now who are stuck in an uninspiring, unstimulating and uncaring homes. Get a grip.

Yes I am a disgrace and I tell myself that every day.....doesn’t make things easier does it?!
My kids are clothed/fed/have more than what they need but I can’t helo how I feel!!

And as for home schooling.....how am I meant to teach them something that I don’t know myself?!?!

You don't really need to know a lot to homeschool. The teachers should be sending any instructions. I understand your frustration- I have 2 kids who will do their homework with no question and a third who us doing everything to get out of it and inciting the others to rebel! One step at a time. How old are your children?

How old are they? There are plenty of resources on line to help you with a teaching programme - people have posted lots on threads.

I admire your honesty but it makes me feel sad, in an envious way I suppose. I had six weeks' maternity leave, father wasn't involved and I worked full time throughout. I would have killed for a bit more time with DD. Zero help to you, obviously!

You don't have to teach them anything. School will be providing everything they need, they will just need help planning their time etc

Sounds like a horrendous existence for them.
I mean this in the kindest way possible but if you acknowledge you're not maternal, why did you have children?

Omg , I really hope this is a wind up

Worse case scenario, OP, sit them in front of.BBC Bitesize and click on the resources for their ages. There are videos and fun quizzes and all sorts.

No-one is expecting you to provide the same level of teaching as a qualified teacher, but there are heaps of resources online if their school isn't guiding you.

God there are some Perfect Pattys in here.

OP, the home learning isn't compulsory. One foot in front of the other, one day at a time. It will end. Just dig in, grit your teeth and wait it out.

A loooooong walk each day will help.

They don't have anything of what they need if you're being genuine about how you feel.

You mention your MH, OP, and sound like you are really struggling. Have you always felt like this about your children?

I'm just wondering whether, given the circumstances, you should be asking Social Services for help with them. Maybe they could be fostered for a while so that you have time to recover from your MH difficulties?

They might be happier as they must sense how you feel about them. Just because they are fed and clothed it doesn't mean they have what they need. They need to feel loved and wanted.

I agree OP you can't help how you feel and you just do your best.

There are some people here who are just demonstrating that they have their own problems.

I agree with the long walk idea.

@PicsInRed
'Perfect Patty's' Believe me I'm very tolerant of different parenting standards but op first admits she isn't maternal and then goes onto say she doesn't want to be around her kids.
You're ok with that are you pics? Do you have kids? If so, would that be ok for your dc?

How old are your children OP?