AIBU to be annoyed at MIL...?

[kittykat7210]

She’s still going to the hairdressers as she says it’s essential because otherwise she’ll have grey hair by the end of it. She doesn’t seem to be taking it seriously! And on top of that her daughter (who lives with them) has Crohns and is on high doses of immunosuppressive medication. MIL has very very mild asthma, I’ve never even seen her use an inhaler but as I understand it she does have one. It angers me because not only is she putting herself and her husband at risk (they are both very fit and healthy albeit mid 50’s) but also their daughter who in every other situation they molly coddle!

It’s not my place to say anything but I do feel it’s very irresponsible of them. And whenever I go into labour (Am 31 weeks) they will have to look after my 2 year old as there is no alternative!

If you intend for them to look after your daughter, then you absolutely need to say something!

Did you watch the news? Only the immunocompromised person has to shield themselves - the healthy people at home with them just need to follow social distancing. Going to the hairdresser is ridiculous though- how on earth is it still open? Maybe report to your local council.

With mild asthma and in her mid-50s your mil is herself considered low risk and there probably wouldn’t be any issues intubating her either if she’s otherwise healthy. It’s people with severe asthma who are classed as high risk.

Can she not just dye it at home?!

I did suggest she dye it at home but she says ‘it’s just not the same’

I know it’s ‘just the hairdressers’ but they get very bored and I think they will probably visit other places if they can. Hairdressers seems very close contact and as they are still open I imagine a few people will be going there. I don’t actually know which hairdressers she goes to to be honest.

Maybe I’ll mention something to my husband, it’s his mum after all!

It's not the same?!

Better off dyeing at home now than dying in a few weeks' time after a battle with this nasty virus!

All hairdressers had been told to close I thought. They can't possibly keep 2 metres apart. We're all inconvenienced to say the least, she needs to be told to stop being so irresponsible, what if she passed something onto her daughter? Terrible attitude imo....for the sake of a few grey hairs. If she stayed in like we've been advised nobody would see her grey hair anyway! I'm enjoying not wearing make up at the moment as not likely to see anyone else!

Sorry op but it's people like her that will make the gov force lockdown. Very selfish.

The alternative is that your husband looks after your 2yo. It's not nice but either you accept the risks they're taking with your child, or don't and look after her yourselves

Flaskmaster

Whilst I understand this might be best for our daughter, I had a very traumatic birth last time with midwives not listening and being incredibly condescending towards me and a lot going wrong and I wouldn’t have been able to do it without my husband. And even the thought of going through labour without my husband sends me into a panic attack. Home birth is also off the table due to complications last time (shoulder dystocia, retained placenta and haemorrhaging)