DD4 and boyfriend

[MyMagicStars]

DD4 is 21, and back from uni early because of COVID-19. My 4 adult DD are at home, with 2 students (DD4 and DD3) and 4 adults working from home. DD4 has asthma, ASD and anxiety, and is struggling with everything at the moment. Her boyfriend is a student, and lives 30 minutes away from us. His family are all working from home apart from Mum, who is a teacher. She's desperate to be allowed to see him at Easter and stay for a few nights, as they can't go on holiday. I'm really struggling to work out what to do with it all- she's trying to do her final term of work at home. We live very rurally and are keeping indoors, but could drive DD door to door if needed. Sorry if the answer is blindingly obvious, I'm trying to balance her mental and physical health.

Anyone?

Tell her to not visit and Skype. If she catches it from BF's mum she will be very ill!

As matters stand, she can’t go - it is both non-essential travel and socialising with someone outside her immediate household group.

Yes, it sucks, but it is for everyone’s safety.

In all honesty, she's an adult who's had the same information as the rest of us so I'm not really clear why she's 'allowed' vs making her own choice but that could well be my own ignorance.

I would hope anyone in the same situation would heed the government advice and not go, instead using facetime etc to stay in touch. Not only does her asthma increase her risk - her moving about increases the risk of her passing the virus to her byfriend and family, one of whom is a teacher so, presumably, needed at work to ensure health workers etc can keep working while their children go to school.

Mental health is absolutely important but I am not sure the only way to protect good mental wellbeing is staying a few days with your boyfriend.

My own two cents, for what they are worth.

By Easter we will be in lockdown so suspect this is academic. She shouldn't be going. Unless she is staying there for the duration.