A rage, a rant and descent into hopelessness

[BuzzingButterfly]

Just that really. In isolation with DC, no community support in this hellhole of a town, need groceries but all supermarket delivery slots are booked for the foreseeable future and no one local willing to do a run to the shop for me - and I’ve tried the local “support” page on fb.

Been 4 or 5 days now and I’m losing it already. I have never stayed inside for this long, I don’t cope being cut off from civilisation and no one in my town is taking this seriously. Large groups of kids still hanging outside together, park across from us still packed to the nines with dog walkers, adults socialising, kids playing and the elderly are all gathering at the social club.

What’s the fucking point? Why the hell should I stay inside and watch my kids starve to protect people that have no brains?!?

Why are you in isolation? Do you have symptoms?

i would be surprised if anyone comes out of this with their sanity intact tbh. Humans aren’t built for isolation.

@AnotherMurkyDay woke up last week with slight temps, coughs and runny noses. I have a cold but we’ve been told we still have to stay isolated for two weeks.

@AgentPrentis I definitely wasn’t. Not seen another adult in days, it’s really getting to me

Waw ppl r so impatient. 4-5 days and you have that much negativity to pour on other ppl?

I was told we are snowflakes nation, but to see it so openly like that, is really beyond belief. Ppl in other parts of the world have been in isolation for weeks. Embarressing.

I'm really sorry to hear you are struggling, OP. If I was in the same town as you I'd be happy to get your shopping for you. Do you have any friends, family or colleagues you could ask? Even if it's a bit awkward and you don't know them well?
If you say which bit of the world you are in (rough area, not town) there may be people nearby who could PM you to help.

Do you have a local corner shop that you can call and ask them to deliver?

You’d be able to google for a number?

Ppl in other parts of the world have been in isolation for weeks

That may be so, but I doubt they're unfailingly positive about it. I can understand the op's 'negativity' especially if she can see others carrying on as normal.

What groceries do you have in? Is there any way you can get through the next 9/10 days? It really is very important to stick to it but equally it is unacceptable for you to actually starve. If it's just a a matter of not wanting to eat plain food or weird combinations then shopping probably wouldn't help with that as many shops are stripped of regular foods, but if you are actually going to have nothing to eat that's different. Could you try speaking to your child's school and see if they have any advice? Otherwise might be worth speaking to any local church groups or children's services/health visiting team. They may be able to organise a food parcel to be delivered of some kind. Some schools are organising provision for children who are eligible for free meals. I think schools are doing their best to help families, but obviously if your children are younger than that it would be either nursery or no provider. Nurseries are being a bit patchy as they are mostly private businesses without the same community relationship as schools.

Well you have no choice OP but to make a makeshift face mask (which I read do reduce the spread of infection if the one wearing it is infected) and go get food to feed your family. Make sure you have a cloth/paper towel soaked with disinfectant to clean the trolley handle/basket/scanner. Leave your DC at home if possible and try to shower/ throw outer clothing straight in machine as soon as you get in. You may not have the virus and you really don’t want it if your immune system is already battling something else.

Where are you OP? Would be happy to get stuff in for you .

Thank you so much everyone for your kindness, really means a lot to me, especially this morning

A friend that lives a couple of towns away called and offered to go get some stuff for me, she said the supermarkets by her are a bit better stocked than where I am.

@AnotherMurkyDay I’ve got some freezer stuff that will last a few days, couple of tins of things in the cupboards too. DC have all just decided to take a stretch while we’re in the middle of a pandemic and are eating like nobodies business. Introduced a set number of things they’re allowed to eat/snack on a day and they’ve still got through it so quickly. Normally do a top up shop of fruit/fridge stuff a couple of times a week though and not been able to get out for our last one.

@NotFattyBomBom I really don’t want to take the risk of passing this onto anyone, I’m about 99% certain all we’ve got is a cold but it’s the thought that it could possibly be someone else and I could be putting people’s lives at risk that puts me off doing that. Much as I’m angry that no one in my town is taking this seriously and still putting themselves and everyone else at risk, I don’t want to be responsible for making someone sick and potentially killing them.

@VaggieMight and @Laaf80 thanks for the suggestions, hadn’t thought of them!

Thanks everyone again for listening and your kindness, it’s honestly helped so much. Felt a bit stir crazy this morning!

@BuzzingButterfly

Glad you're getting some bits. At times like these it's good to let it out somewhere. It comes in waves I think. I felt like I was climbing the walls a few days in, but now it's almost like a new normal, but I'll probably be climbing the walls again before the 14 days is done.

Hi all. We've made a couple of deletions in this thread, and hopefully things can get back on track now. Peace and love, MNHQ

Disinfectant and antibac does not work. Only bleach or alcohol. It is so important for people to understand this.

Really endof. Is that why were being told to wash our hands with soap?

OP - can you say where you are?
I'd drop a shop to you if I could. Our local Co-Op seems to have fresh stuff every day.

I don't blame you for feeling over whelmed. It is going to be a long lonely road.

Can you call anyone? Face time them so you can see and talk to an actual adult?

How old are your dcs?

How old are your DCs and do they have symptoms? If so when did the DCs symptoms start?

YOU can leave the house on day 7 after your symptoms started. So if they also had symptoms start on the same day - you can ALL go out on day 7.

But you should still socially distance etc as you don’t know if you have just had a cold/flu or CV if you haven’t been tested - so you could still catch it and/or pass it on to others.

If their symptoms started later than yours you need to count their 7 days from that date.

YOU only need to stay in for the full 14 days - if they don’t get symptoms at all or they start on 7th day after yours started - or they are too little to leave obviously.

Ordinary soap and hot water for hand washing is ideal. Antibacterial soap is no better.
Detergent/washing up liquid and hot water breaks down the virus.
Bleach solution kills the virus.
That's it.
The clue is in the the word "antibacterial". Bacteria are completely different from viruses.