Arguement with dad about my mums keyworker status - complicated family

[user1469563984]

I have a 8 yr old. She is in my mum and dad care, they have a residence order (please don't judge) I live at same address with my mum dad and daughter. Dad has severe lung disease. My mum is classed as a keyworker , she is a dinner lady (not at the same school my daughter goes too) and my mum has to go in monday. Thing is me and my dad are at home, i am working full time from home and dad dont work due to his illness. things is we had a huge row this evening as I dont think my daughter should be going to school tomorrow as I am at home and there no issues with me looking after her. I dont think it is ideal that I will be working from home and my daughter is here, but it is just the way it is. Anyhow I said this too my dad and basically that they are abusing the system, as i can look after her and the school email said, if your child can stay at home then they should. my dad just like it because it inconvenient for him. Am I right in being upset here ? I rather her be at home, so its less likely she would catch it and also if she does and my dad gets it, he be a goner. But all my dad just wants is peace and quiet and is not thinking about my daughters health I am fuming opinions please ?

Well obviously she should stay at home, your dad doesn't really have a valid argument.

Obviously, she stays at home. Sod your Dad being inconvenienced.

doesn't your dad get that if your dd goes into school she will be more exposed to the chance of infection than his wife (your dm) will - which increase HIS chance of infection & if he gets it - god help him
he is putting his health at risk

Your daughter needs to stay at home. She will be mixing with the children of front line NHS staff who will have come into contact with the virus. It will only be a matter of time before she brings it home and passes it onto your dad. His ignorance won't help him when he is fighting for his life in hospital.

Your daughter probably won't suffer so that's a bit of a non argument. The point about your dad's risk is fair but his choice. Yes the guidelines say she should stay at home if possible, really you need to talk to your mum about why she thinks that is best. None of us know the history or why you are in the situation you are but it sounds more complex than your op suggests.

@user1469563984 I don’t mean to pry but I wonder if your parents have a residence order then 1. Are you permitted to have sole care of her 2. Does she have a social worker 3. Is your dad physically able to care for her? If she had a social worker then the advice is she continues to attend school and also if your dad is too unwell to care for her and you are not allowed sole care then again she should go to school so your mum can do her key job. Hope you work it all out

no social worker involved as it was years ago - i have her all day, take her out on my own etc etc

On the face of it, she should be staying home. However (and I'm genuinely not prying, you're right not to share any more than you have), her complicated circumstances will presumably qualify your daughter as vulnerable. If there are any concerns that you taking on more caring responsibilities for her wouldn't be in her best interests in any way, then it's right that she goes to school.

my mum and dad can let me take her on holiday to great yarmouth for a week, so there no safeguarding issues. it just inconvenient for my dad

If it's just inconvenient for your dad she should stay at home and if he is at risk he needs to think of his own health .

In that she could be mixing with other kids and bring something back home

@Really12345 has it bang on

not classed vunerable

It does sound like they are being selfish. But unfortunately given the circumstances it’s their choice to make.

Things seem to be going well with your daughter, maybe time to talk to the social workers about changing the arrangements?