She‘a 70, quite probably in early stages of dementia but point blank refuses to see a doctor at this point. I’m a sahm with school age kids and she lives a few roads away so I normally pop in for a couple of hours most school days to tidy up, sort out tea for her, make sure she’s generally alright.
Although she often gets confused about what day it is, why she’s out etc she’s still very fit - 10 mile runs most days, swims in the sea everyday of the year, and we live in a very tight knit community, almost everyone knows her and will help her if she’s forgotten what she doing etc.
At least twice a week she comes round to ours for tea and to see dc’s. I’ve sat down and told her time and time again that we need to stop doing this for a bit, explained about CV, social distancing etc. She’s still very bright, understands it each time I explain but then just forgets and turns up at our door and I pretty much have to turn her away which is awful.
I want her to move in with us just until we’re allowed back out again. DM is adamant she doesn’t want to do this and DH is concerned (as am I) about her catching CV from us (or particularly my window licking 4yo).
She’s just phoned me up crying because she read in the paper that it’s Mother’s Day and none of us came to see her (I called her several times but she didn’t pick up and posted a card a few days ago). I explained about CV again and she told me I was just making excuses because I didn’t want to see her because I think she’s a burden.
WWYD? Shall I just make her move in and risk getting ill from us? If I don’t go and visit there’s a good chance she won’t eat or she’ll get lost on a run or get incredibly distressed. If I do go and visit I’ll need to take the dc’s though - DH is a key worker and working 12 hour days atm and dc’s are too young to stay alone.