Childcare WWYD

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My parents usually look after DD(3) full time apart from when she is at nursery which is 2 half days, either at our house or theirs, about 5 minute drive away. DD was last in nursery on 13th March. DH and I are now working from home, my last day in the office was 12th and DH was 16th. We work in London so have been commuting until now. DD has respiratory issues so is vulnerable, and DM and DF are also high risk. Last week they looked after DD at their house every day until Thursday, and she’s been with me and DH since. We have all been self isolating since Tuesday in that we haven’t been out of the house except to go to the other house, and hadn’t had any face to face contact with anyone in the outside world (no shopping, only deliveries).

This week do we:

1. Let DD be looked after at their house as per last week.
2. Let DD be looked after at our house (DH and I are WFH)
3. Not let parents look after DD and look after her ourselves

None of us have any symptoms. I keep changing my mind between thinking a) if any of us are carriers, we’ve spread it already as we’ve been seeing each other all week, and b) we haven’t passed 14 days since we locked down so it isn’t safe.

We could manage without parents for childcare, but they enjoy it. I just want to do the right thing for everyone as I don’t want my parents or my child to be infected as I worry how much they would suffer. Please be kind. WWYD?

I explained that we thought of ourselves as one household not mixing with anyone else. Rightly or wrongly.

DD has been hospitalised twice in the last 18 months for breathing difficulties so I am worried about her. I can’t see how she would be an asymptomatic carrier as everything goes to her chest. We will keep her at home as long as we need to.

@NauseousNancy Sorry I wouldn’t under those circumstances. As your DH is still out and about he could become infected and pass it on via the DC.

I know, that’s my concern. They are still out at Tesco etc when needed, so their logic is they may well get it there. Until they are in total isolation they don’t feel the need to stop.