Flatmate still going out and about

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AGH

I am social distancing, moved all my work equipment home etc. Going slightly mad so I might be overreacting!

Flatmate and I are acquaintances, things have been previously a bit strained due to issues with her not cleaning and wanting to take my furniture rather than buying her own (unfurnished property, I moved in two years prior to her).

She was still popping out for brunches, coffee etc last week. She has bf and spends 70% of her time there, and they’re still going outside. AIBU to be really annoyed by this? What is the point in me being cooped up when she’s bringing germs back to the flat?

She doesn’t work (very well off fam), so I completely get it must be frustrating not being able to do her usual stuff, but she’s putting us all at risk 😞

She’s allowed to go outside. Government guidelines encourage going outside but just ensuring you keep your distance from other people.

Tell her to stay at her boyfriend's if she's not following government guidance, you are and don't want her making you ill

She can go outside long as she’s keeping a 2 metre distance. Is she washing her hands and stuff when she comes in?

I understand your concern but at the moment nobody is on lockdown & until the government issue that, it's almost encouraged to still go out for fresh air as long as you're keeping at a reasonable distance from other people.

So neither of you are reasonable or unreasonable. Both just dealing with this shitty situation in your own ways.

She can go out if she wants but is supposed to keep her distance, but I can see why this is upsetting you if you're being sensible and staying at home.
Tried talking to her? Is she washing her hands when she gets back?
Maybe now's the time to see if she wants to go stay with BF? And once this is all over I'd suggest booting her out or moving yourself.

Ask her to go & stay at her boyfriends until this is all over. She’s being very selfish.

Thank you for the balanced responses! I will try and see her point of view as I do have anxiety (who doesn’t at this point 😬). She left for her bfs thurs eve, so it’s possible she’ll have changed her behaviour after the stricter measures were announced! To clarify, when I says outside I meant they were still going to pubs, restaurants etc.

I was planning on moving out this or next month, but feels selfish to attempt that now (flat viewings, hiring some guys to help me move).

No she isn’t washing her hands when she comes in, and I’ve started noticing she sometimes doesn’t after using the bathroom agh. (I know not specifically relevant to cv but every little thing is stressing me now!)

Thanks for moving to coronavirus thread !

Social distancing means not going to her boyfriend's house. Also, how is she getting there? Public transport? Also, coffees and brunches? No. And all these people asking
If she's washing her hands - if she has CV, the handwashing isn't a failsafe because she will be breathing the virus into the air. I'm staggered by the amount of people who don't understand what social distancing means. It means you go out IF YOU MUST and you stay away from other people. Exercise, food, medication: yes. A fucking jolly: no.

Do you think it would be fair to remind her social distancing means not going to bfs, and she needs to choose where to live? I’m dreading the row that will follow 😭 (am really hoping she will have come to that conclusion herself)

I’m not sure how she’s getting there actually, or if her bf is still going to work, both of which would make a big difference..

Her behaviour has a direct effect on your health (not to mention other people's) so personally yes, I absolutely would.

I will try and think of a way of saying it nicely AGH

If this situation continues (she spent the day today in the park), what can I actually do about it?

Is it too late for her to move to her bfs for the lockdown?