Husband a doctor...I'm a 'vulnerable' person, should I kick him out of the house?

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Well, not kick him out! But get him into a temporary flat or something?

But I'm not seeing guidance at all for healthcare workers and what to do if you live with a vulnerable person. In my case, I'm immunosuppressed and have asthma. My son is also asthmatic, but not badly so.

Our country has developing cases and DH is in the thick of it at the hospital. Doesn't that mean he's more at risk of getting it? And he may not know for up to 2 weeks?

He's a very literal person, so if there are no directives, he says he will change his clothes after his shift, have a shower and come home - like he has been told to do by the health authority.

It seems reasonable, but it also seems contradictory? My son and I are in isolation, but here is a person who is at the front line of treating people with CV popping back home every evening.

What do you think? Has anyone seen any other guidelines on this?

Some trusts are offering hotel accommodation for NHS staff in this position

I’d rather have my husband home and take all precautions than have him move out for an undefined length of time.

But hey, we are all different !

What a difficult position to be in.

If you have time, you might want to watch this video. The man being interviewed has Crohn's disease. 30 minutes in, he discusses how he raised with his doctor wife doing some distancing at home.

@pocketem - that's interesting. I wonder if our government is doing the same... I'll check.

@Fantasiaa - i'd rather have my husband here for sure too, the idea of him ending up in shitty accommodation has been the reason I've not push this so far.
For context, I was hospitalized 2 years ago for pneumonia and ended up for over 2 weeks on a ward. And 5 years before that, and a few times before that throughout my childhood and 20s. I'm on tablets for asthma, and 2 different inhalers. I was on oral (tablet) steroids only a couple of months ago because my breathing was rubbish.

There's a balance between wanting him here and the very real risk that he'll pass it to me. Any other people in different countries know how their government is managing this? The guidelines are changing daily!

@nellodee - thanks! I'll watch that. Really helpful.

When my DH gets moved to frontline we'll live apart though it will be awful for our 1 year old who loves his Dad so much. I'm pregnant and would have been frontline too but have been taken off as I'm vulnerable. Seems silly to me to miss out on working where I could actually help but expose myself at home. We thought we could probably decontaminate him well enough if he was carrying it on his clothes etc but he would obviously pass it on if he actually caught it. Really difficult decision and I'm dreading it.

We were in the same position.

He's been given a free house by someone we don't know in our community.

Worth posting on Social Media groups for your local areas.

Some staff at his trust are being offered hotel rooms.

My sister is in the same position - she's pregnant and has a small child with health issues, my BIL is a doctor. He's moved in with his mum (in her 50s with no health issues) and they are being careful there, while my sister stays at home.
In your position, I'd have one of you moving out. The odds of him catching coronavirus at some point are sky high, and he'll almost certainly be fine, but you don't want to take the risk.

Hospitals near me have been being offered accomodation which will be offered to people with vulnerable family members living with them.

I don't think (assuming outside London) that you need to take action like this quite yet, but I would assume you would be about to once it's more widespread in a few weeks.

My DH is at risk of catching it from his work too. He has no work at home option and although not medical is a vital key worker.
I'm quite scared. I am at home with my kids (as was a childminder) and he's out every day.

At the moment we are all in the same house but we have divided up the rooms so he has his own lounge, bedroom and bathroom.

The kids and I stay in the rest of the house and we chat but from a distance away.

The kitchen is more tricky to divide so it's lots of handwashing and detol spray when we go in there.

It feels weird. He thinks I'm OTT but is going along with it. A nearby hotel has offered rooms to key workers if they need to move out of home for distancing or being closer to work. It's quite a posh hotel and very close to where he works so it is something that we will look at if things get any higher risk for him.

It's not a nice thought but I would see if there is anywhere he can stay to be honest.

Please tell your Husband I said I respect and admire what he is doing for the humanity of his country.

I pray that he comes back you and his children without incident.

But he really does need seperate accommodation from you all. Failing that do you have enough rooms so as to turn one into an isolation room that he can stay in?

Thank you all so much for the support and advice!!

You've made me feel like I'm not going crazy being concerned about this.
OK, I'm going to get my husband to check what the hospital is formally advising and will also start casting about for somewhere one of us could decamp to. It'd probably be easier for him to move out because the kids are going to be home for the next few weeks and I'm now WFH. I feel shitty about it though because we'll miss him and I'd hate to see him having to be all alone in the evenings.

Thanks again.

I know, they're going to be dealing with so much and the thought they can't even come home for a hug
And if he got sick I wouldn't be able to look after him or even see him

My husband is a doctor too, although me and DC's don't have health issues, and we were talking about this today as someone posted on FB that they were stripping when they came in, showering, keeping 2m away from family and sleeping in a different room. But I'd imagine if she got the virus she'd spread it just walking about the house before she was symptomatic.
Sorry have no definite answer for you, but sending you a hug

God you lot are brave. So much respect to you.