Step Families

[Futureplanning]

What are other step families doing?

My dsd's are 14 and 17, so usually only come about once a month these days. They're due to come next weekend. DH is in the at risk group, so at the moment other than work is not leaving the house. (Hoping work stops ASAP).

I think it would be crazy for them to come, he thinks as he's currently still going to work, it's no different and they should still come.

Our young ds is desperate for them to come too and I'm feeling like the big bad stepmother for even thinking they shouldn't.

I know I'm right, but how can I get him to see this, when he so wants to see them?

DSS was supposed to be coming to us for the Easter holidays.
We have cancelled. As much as we all want to see each other it is just not worth the risk to anyone.
We can FaceTime and look forward to seeing each other once all this is over. It’s hard, but not as hard as potentially ending up in hospital or indeed putting someone else in hospital

If you look in the step parenting section there are a few threads discussing this with views on both sides.

@asofanearyou thanks I'll take look

No problem, I am absolutely with you for what it's worth.

We’re what you would call a blended family with step kids on both sides... we’re still carrying on as normal with kids going between houses. None of us are high risk though. If one of us gets symptoms we’ll all isolate

We're still having DH's kids, although for longer periods of time (we have them 50/50)
Tbh I'd rather they just stay with us. DH's ex is still going about her life and getting haircuts etc. I don't trust her to keep them in.

His work have now sent him home to self isolate, so surely having them come and stay over is even more wrong now?

No they shouldn't be coming to you now OP.
DH has called Ex W and it's been agreed we will keep them for the next few weeks, made sense because they are already with us. But if they're not with you and he is now self isolating they absolutely shouldn't be with you.