Send son to nursery or not

[NCParanoia]

I wonder if any of you can help me with your advice: DPs job is apparently a key worker role so DS (2.5yo) could effectively go to nursery, which I think we will have to pay for either way. If DS attends then I'll be able to do my self employed work (there's a lot more work atm because I can wfh in a way others can't who do my job) but obviously we are increasing our risk of catching Covid 19 by sending him there.

Other than nursery we would be completely self isolating and not even going to the shops... but I'm worried that its not worth the risk in case we get it. We have a baby who is 4mo so obviously he is still so little but I can't get any work done at all whilst looking after the both of them (it literally needs to be silent so I can do my job) and I'm having to turn down work.

[WillowB]

I think it would be very selfish to send him personally, regardless of whether your husband is a key worker you have the option to keep him at home do it.

I am also a key worker - a teacher & will be putting myself and my family at risk to look after children like yours. I will be keeping my children at home.

[milkysmum]

Our headteacher has been explicit that if there is anybody at home, working from home or otherwise, they are not to use the school for childcare. The government has messed this up hugely by making the keyworker list so broad and by not explicitly saying that both parents need to be key workers. Now everyone is trying to use the child care and the schools won't be able to cope and the whole closing of schools will have been pointless as they will buckle. Please keep your child at home.
I'm a single parent, and a nurse, I have absolutely no other choice but to use the childcare, my school can accept 20% and already over 40% have identified as key workers needing childcare- I'm terrified they will now not be able to provide anything at all.

[wildthingsinthenight]

No please don't

[CaryStoppins]

Children should be at home if possible.

[BumpkinSpiceBatty]

Just don't.

[DroppedBoxxedRuth]

I don't get why you say you're self isolating other than sending your DC to nursery

I know it's worrying times OP, but it's really not worth the risk.

I'm going into work tomorrow to ask to WFH or I will be finishing up. I've been there a week, worst job change timing in history!

[user1471605495]

You will be placing your child at greater risk.
You will be risking the lives of the nursery staff.
You will be risking the lives of the other key worker children there and those of their families.
If you kill a key worker or put one, or yourself, in hospital you are risking everyone's lives.
No unnecessary risks. No matter how hard this is.
Flatten the curve.

[stardance]

Don't send him if at all possible.

I'm having to send my children to school, to go to work in a nursery, to care for children who mostly don't need to be there. And that really sucks.

[excitedmumtobe87]

@NCParanoia I’m going to say this in the kindest possible way but nobody’s job is a quick 15 mins put them in front of the TV. Have you tried editing while kids scream and the telly’s on? I have to work in the evenings now as I did when they were babies. I’d rather that than spread this virus or take a school place and nhs worker who truly needs it could have

[excitedmumtobe87]

@NCParanoia I do wish you so much luck with your situation and work and hope it goes well. These coming months don’t be easy for shy of us but I hope you can keep work going. A solidarity home worker hug to you

[tobermoryisthebestwomble]

No, don't send him

[JustPickleRick]

You've still not said what your DP does for a job so it's impossible to comment if you're doing the right thing or simply taking the piss.

[NCParanoia]

You're all right, it is selfish to even consider sending him. He won't be attending and ill middle through like everyone else will be.

Thanks for all making me face it. Its hit home today how seriously this needs to be taken and I now feel as annoyed as you all do seeing people out and about living life as normal.