Fuming with Sibling visiting mother

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I just spoke on the phone to my 74-year-old mother. She's fine and well and self-isolating as best as possible.
Whilst on the phone I heard a voice in the background and asked who it was. She replied "oh, it's just your 'sibling'. They popped around to see me for a chat and a cuppa".
Sibling has two children, one primary school age and one in preschool.
But "it's ok, they said everyone feels fine, and we sat six feet apart".
AIBU to be utterly fuming and think this was a very irresponsible act putting my DM at unnecessary risk?

If they followed social distancing then it’s fine

YANBU OP. This is how it spreads so quickly. People are carriers and contagious before they get any symptoms.

Some people are making up their own rules as they go along.

@GrumpyHoonMain you are not meant to be in each other's houses!

If they followed social distancing then it’s fine

By being there they are not following social distancing are they? Sheesh

Every time she speaks she releases thousands of droplets into the air. If she’s asymptomatic then she won’t know that they are full of Covid-19. Sitting six feet away will not cut it.

Have you spoken to your sister?
Tell her about social distancing!

But surely this scenario is in the 'Do with caution' category so they are following social distancing?

I'd be equally fuming. Utterly thick and ignorant behaviour

Does your mum not have any responsibility for having let them in?

Does your mum not have any responsibility for having let them in?
I'm equally annoyed with her for allowing it.

Have you spoken to your sister?
We have an awkward relationship already, they won't pay any heed to what I say, unfortunately.

Dh was surprised we aren’t seeing mil tm. Dh is compromised and mil went to the hairdressers yesterday.

Yes it probably is in the private gathering of a few friends group, which is in the do with caution section....however taking the children would worry me.

It's difficult. My 75yo dm hasn't seen anyone for 2 weeks. I've been dropping off shopping and we talk on the phone. I'm considering seeing her soon but sitting across the room from each other. It isn't exactly what is recommended, but I'm worried about her mental health as well and her physical health.

Il having this row with oh keeps going to his mom n dads n they encouraging it 😡 his dad in 70s n got health problems . Messaged his sis for her support to stop it she lives there too n got no answer 🤷‍♀️

My sister is doing the same and taking DC along with her, telling DM she should keep taking ibruprophen instead of switching to paracetamol as there’s no conclusive proof etc. It beggars belief on one hand but on the other she always has been a self centred cow.

YANBU

Well my brother went further and decided he was bored in his apartment so he would go and 'self isolate' at my parent's house along with his wife, baby, and their pets. My parents have a big house with a garden. My parents agreed. They are in France so restrictions are very tight now so he went before they stopped people going out and about. My parents aren't particularly elderly or fragile but it is an unnecessary risk imo.

It's not helping that both DH and I are designated Key Workers and have to continue going to work, thereby dipping ourselves back into the pool of infection risk daily. I'm very frustrated that I cannot see her as I cannot guarantee that I haven't been exposed to the virus, but even if I could I would certainly think twice.
Advice is very confusing but I'm inclined to err on the side of caution.DM has high BP and had pneumonia a few years ago.

It comes under ‘Do with caution’ stop being so hysterical

That's selfish of them tbf, but on the other side it seems like it's the older generation that aren't taking it to seriously right now and it needs to change. But your sibling is being irresponsible.

YANBU. I don’t understand why so many people are ignoring the guidance. My neighbour’s DC has at least 3 friends round for a play date at the moment (they’re in the garden). Social distancing obviously doesn’t apply to them. And don’t get me started in the fact that DC’s nursery are remaining open to ALL next week. I cannot believe how irresponsible some people are being.

My DF asked me if they could visit us this weekend. They are widowed and live alone. I said no, got off the phone and cried for being so strict. But my child only finished nursery yesterday and I’ve been shopping for elderly neighbours in the evenings.
He’s still visiting people and doing his hobby, but if he gets it and dies I can live on knowing it wasn’t me that exposed him. That’s more important to me then him missing us.

Social distancing is different to self isolating. Because of her age she should be self isolating, which means staying in her house/garden and having no visitors. For 12 weeks.

I understand the OP's frustration. I live in Scotland and am doing everything as advised with regard to social distancing - staying at home with DH and no visitors. My brother lives in England with his girlfriend (who has three young children who live with their father). The children are visiting between both parents. My concern is that brother and his girlfriend are collecting my mother who has various age-related illnesses and they, together with the children are all meeting in my brother's house for dinner, before taking my mother back home. I don't know what the children get up to when they go back to their father's. I have spoken with my mother by phone who watches the news and is aware of the Coronavirus news but still allows these visits to go ahead. Brother is a bit hot-headed and difficult to reason with. Any hints on how to handle this from a distance? Thanks.