Does anyone else keep randomly crying

[lulahb]

Dunno if it's a mum thing and feeling like schools closing was such a huge thing, feel like my child's reception year has been stolen from her and just generally feeling heartbroken for all the cancelled parties and summer of fun we had planned...

I know in the scheme of things it's nothing but every few hours I remember what's going on and start crying...

Hi All x well I'm still in the crying all the time phase. Think it might be being made worse by peri menopause xxx

Not sure why I am posting. Just to say I guess if you are still crying you are not alone. And those who found their big person pants - any tips?

I found out in the last few days I won't be able to see the man I love (sorry that sounds dramatic, it's the easiest way to explain the relationship!) until this is all over. (He lives within walking distance but caring responsibilities means he's social distancing in the extreme.) It could be years. Am close to his DC too - obvs not seeing them either. I keep distracting myself then it hits me like a ton of bricks.

Plus I was already struggling to deal with still being childless and a ticking bio clock... this feels like a total dashing of any hope in that respect. Not going to meet anyone now! Sorry if this sounds a bit selfish reason for crying.

Another random sniffler here - so is my DP and we're both in our 50s with no kids but a brace of elderly, vulnerable and some terminal relatives to support. My kids are adults, but even when they were younger, I did not hide valid emotional responses from them, but used them as an opportunity to talk through and understand tough situations.

While I do, for the most part, favour the stiff upper lip reponse, I have found that with children, if they are aware of a confusing and scary situation, but all the adults are minimising it and showing nothing but positivity it is far scarier for them because they are still learning to regulate their emotions. Suppressing a quite normal and human response can actually lead to far deeper problems. Crying is a pressure relief valve, and learning to accept it, get through it and appreciate the release of that pressure is quite important. Discounting it and worse expressing anger and irritation can be quite harmful in the long term.

There has been so much publicity about not bottling up one's feelings and fears to combat suicide, that I was hoping that people would understand that having a little weep is not a sign of weakness it is part of a process that helps us cope and then move forward.

Of course taking to one's bed and weeping and wailing for days is not healthy, but understanding and managing one's emotions is very important, and that goes for children too who might feel alone and ashamed on top of their appropriate fears in the current situation.

Just my two pennorth.

@OldQueen. Thank you for your
Words of wisdom. I'm somewhere between the stuff upper lip and taking to my bed. But you've made me realise it's ok.

@virtualhugs. No reason is to small to feel the way you do. And your reasons are pretty big.

Yep me. Well I cried a lot on Friday. They sent a letter home for us to read to the kid's, it said something along the lines of 'we love you all and you are all super star!!' I started blubbing in the car when I first read it and then again when I read it the next day!

Not yet but I am very close to it. I am a working single parent with no family to help with the new childcare situation as they are either key workers or on the list of high vulnerability. My child minder has been told to keep provisions for key workers children only, so therefore from tomorrow, I will be unable to work.

I am so stressed with worry about how I am going to pay my bills and feed my child without getting into debt. I wish there was better clarity for people like myself in way of what help is available. There is help for people whose company has had to close but not for those whose company is still open but are unable to work due to lack of childcare.

@oldqueen1969

Thank you for that that's really made me feel better