Does anyone else keep randomly crying

[lulahb]

Dunno if it's a mum thing and feeling like schools closing was such a huge thing, feel like my child's reception year has been stolen from her and just generally feeling heartbroken for all the cancelled parties and summer of fun we had planned...

I know in the scheme of things it's nothing but every few hours I remember what's going on and start crying...

Yes.
I had low level anxiety centred around work that I was coping well with.
This and some related work stuff has me signed off now, probably for the duration. Constantly bursting into tears and terrible insomnia is not what you want in a dentist.

Also FYI no one should be going to the dentist except in emergencies- constant throbbing pain, swelling, bleeding, trauma. It isn’t a safe environment.

My little boy is in reception.

Some positives

They won’t remember this.
In many countries they wouldn’t be at school yet.
I think they’ll go back for a few weeks in June. None of know, just take it a week at a time.

I am a teacher and a bit of a tiger mum and even I’m not doing phonics. He will read every day and we’ll do maths soonish. But no phonics.

I haven't cried, but do feel sad my dc will be missing out on their clubs, hobbies, seeing their friends, meeting up with my friends and their dc, all our easter plans and seeing family.

What has definitely helped me is accepting the fact that this is a totally normal and healthy reaction. Things are changing, life is currently not what we are used to. Fear and worry are our natural defence mechanisms.

So be gentle with yourself and others. Let yourself have a couple of pyjama days if you can, to regroup.

For those who can’t, who are frontline or in jobs they can’t leave, sending all good positive thoughts your way. Thank you

Also

Give your brain a break. I’ve had several bereavements and this is similar. You have to rest your brain because it’s too much to process.

watch friends
Laugh
Walk
Turn off news
Etc etc

Yep! Called school yesterday to tell them DD wasn't going in & sobbed, cried Thursday when they dropped her work off. Cried when she cried that she won't get her birthday celebrations. Cried because I couldn't help her do multiplication in column method.

Lots of random crying going on here.

@AgentPrentiss

Very true, I don't. I'm only going by what OP has said and offering a different take on things.
We all don't have to agree.

I had a cry last night and I'm not a mum (although did get my period today so go figure)

It's an overwhelming time with a lot of uncertainty, it does us good to have a cry.

I just keep imagining all the reality TV shows in the future talking about the 2020 Coronavirus and how we all coped - probably with the Wilson family living through no loo paper and empty shelves...

I can't really get upset about a small child missing out on reception year, no but I feel very sorry for teens who have had to leave uni, give up their student halls and move home for God knows how long and pupils email missed out on GCSEs and A levels.

It's probably a good idea to turn off the news and try and focus on the lots of positives

Not just a mum thing as I don't have any kids, but I have cried a bit over this. Mainly over the fact that things are going to have to change so drastically and there's no set end point for this. I see my widowed grandad almost every day but now of course, I'm unable to in case I pass anything on to him and I don't know when it will be safe to see him again.

I never knew how much I relied on non-essential social contact until I was faced with having to avoid it.

@Lifeisabeach09

Very true, I don't. I'm only going by what OP has said and offering a different take on things.
We all don't have to agree

You’re right, we don’t all have to agree. We don’t have to be mean though. Telling someone to get perspective with the tone you did and adding a “FFS” for good measure is unnecessarily nasty.

Everyone needs a little kindness right now.

Nothing wrong with being anxious and worried I think it would be odd not to feel that with all the uncertainty just now and for some people they become emotional. No one can tell others how they feel, if you’re upset you’re upset it’s horrible to think about plans you’ve had etc being ruined kids missing out on things, it was my sons birthday on Thursday and we had to cancel his party it’s crap for him.

It doesn’t mean we’re not worried about people’s jobs and older people/family members becoming ill, how our nhs will cope etc I’m a nurse working with children and hoping I don’t catch it and bring it home to my kids everyone has different circumstances so cry if it helps or if you feel you need to have a release ignore mrs get a grip,

Jesus, people can be upset for whatever reasons they want. I was a wreck yesterday as ds's time at primary was abruptly cut short and the kids were all crying, they're missing out on all their end of year stuff, high school transition etc. I'm sad for ds and his friends as lack of social contact is going to be very hard on them. I'm still more concerned about dying and leaving my ds an orphan but it's OK to be upset about the less important stuff too. Cannot bloody stand posters who jump on threads telling people how they should or shouldn't feel.

Our school shared a story they told the kids about Stay At Home Superheroes... that set me off!

Yes I felt like this on Thursday. I think the stress and anxiety came together with time of the month! Thankfully feeling much better today Got out for a non-parkrun run this morning and was good to say hi to people I was passing on the roads.

Me! No DCs here, everyone I love is safe and healthy (for now) and we will hopefully be ok financially for a little while, but I just keep getting hit with random moments of sadness that life has changed so rapidly so quickly and that the effects of it will be felt in so many ways for far into the future. I think it's the enormity of it. If someone had said to me 6 weeks ago this is what would be happening I would have laughed.

Yes it's a scary and anxious time

I think it's a healthy response. We're all on emotional rollercoasters right now whether we're aware of it or not, and the best thing is to express feelings as they come up. If we hold them in, they tend to come out sideways - hence all the flare-ups on so many threads.

I am so fucking sick and tired of the people laying into people for feeling upset about different things. We're all entitled to feel the way that we do, whilst still recognising how awful it is for the country and other people. It doesn't mean we can't feel sad for our own situation too!

I hope all the crying people aren't behaving like this in front of their children

I keep crying when I hear about people doing kind things for each other.

The dickheads and bastards piss me off, but kindness just floors me.

Yes. Was quite good at doing it on the way to work in the week.

Me too.
I have loved ones I am really worried about and I've lost my job, but I am also really upset for my daughter.

We are self isolating at the moment due to mild symptoms (that probably are not CV, but trying to do right thing).
She is finding it really hard not seeing her friends. But even when our 2 weeks SI are up, she still won't be able to socialise with her friends for maybe months.
She was really upset when she heard the schools were closing, because "what if they throw my pencils away mummy!" She's such a little social butterfly she's going to find this really hard. We will if course use video calls etc, but it's not the same.

I know it is necessary, but I do worry about the effects of social distancing on young children especially. It is huge - seeing other children is very important for child development, and several months (or a year?) Is a huge amount of time for a child. Children will suffer the effects of social distancing more than adults.
I know many trivialise it as "just playdates" but telling a 6 year old that they will not be having a birthday party (or seeing any of their friends or relatives) on their birthday is horrible. Many of my friends are breaking this news to their kids now, when they are already unsettled by school closures, and upset about not being able to any of their activities.
I am worried about the long term Mental health impact - and that's just the relatively privileged kids! Let alone the ones who do not have safe, stable homes.

What really gets me is the guilt. I wish now I had given my DD a sibling. Then she would not be so alone.

And I am fucking furious when I hear of people like Stanley fucking Johnson boasting of how they "will still go to the pub". Because God forbid they make any sacrifices. It's fine for the nation's children to have their little lives turned upside down, to miss out on all the things we took for granted as kids, but god forbid he miss out on a pint!

I'm not usually a particularly emotional person whatsoever really but I've had a cry today (not really stopped crying all day) because it's only just occurred to me my little girl will never be going back to preschool where she adores her teachers and friends. In the grand scheme of things it sounds daft for that to be my main upset but I think it's just a lot of pent up anxiety and stress about the whole situation right now and that was the weight that broke the floodgates.