People still aren’t taking it seriously

[starrysimon]

I’m sick to the back teeth of arguing with DH about the meaning of social distancing and not going out unless essential. This man even had the audacity to say if SS (his DS, 7yo) died from the virus because of his health complications then it would just be ‘unfortunate’. This situation has shown me who the fuck am I even married to? Vile! This man is still going to work doing non essential contracts in other people’s homes, going to supermarket unnecessarily just to buy beer, Not sure what he thinks he is achieving from his attitude.

Anyone else got any idiots like this in their lives?

Your husband sounds a lot like my father-in-law. He goes into the shops and buys beers despite all this going on. When we tell him, he says 'oh dont worry about it, whats going to happen will happen'. Some people are just selfish.

My husband's exactly the same. He just doesn't t get it. We've got plenty of food but he fancies some smoked salmon for his breakfast and was talking about nipping out to see if he could get some. So we 've had yet another 'social distancing ' rage episode.

To be fair i think these people are bewildered and unsettled and maybe in denial too.

I had a falling out with a friend yesterday, long distance friendship of about 12 years, called for a catch up, the conversation turned to cv, I said we were self isolating due to our son, he asked why, I said he is vulnerable, disability and has had heart surgery, he said you can’t live like that, I said we can. He then said it’s like the flu, a few old uns will die and life will go on. This is from an intelligent man who runs a successful business. I ended the call and blocked him. He’s no longer a friend.

Hang on, he said if his own son dies it’s just unfortunate? Is he usually so callous?
I’d spend lockdown time wisely making an exit strategy, thats some sociopathic shit right there.

Not suggesting this about your DH but this had made ne realise how thick some of the people l know are. Someone l know went to work in assam old people's home with a cough. They then suggested meeting up soon. Nah, l'm good thanks.

Starrysimon he sounds like he doesn't care tbh. Ltb. After all this is over, obviously.

I also despair. Do people not watch the tv?
I saw people congregating in the town centre yesterday and kids here out playing together.

I completely agree. Just posted on yet another can I send my child with temperature to nursery thread.

I am reevaluating some friendships.

Show him the videos from Italy.

Ask him to imagine his son lying on one of the beds in a corridor, alone. Dying. Alone.

Show him the rows of coffins. Imagine that was were his son was then sent. Alone.

Ffs I honestly have no words for his callousness.

@DitheringDoris
I am in the same situation with my dd. Absolutely no visitors!

Many people are completely overwhelmed and in denial. Sadly they will only understand the extent of this crisis when they see the deaths stack up or, unfortunately, lose somebody that they know.
And then there are others that really don't care about other people at all.

@RainWoman19 💐 no visitors here either, it’s going to be tough, my son is busy constantly and has little understanding of his own safety so I’m watching him constantly!
Sending you and your daughter my best wishes and hope you both stay well. We will get through it.

My in-laws refused a visit from their son (who was going to post newspaper and Mother’s Day card through the letterbox) because they “have a money off voucher for the newspaper so we’ll go to the shop as we don’t want to waste it”

They are both over 70 and one already has breathing difficulties through emphysema. Can’t argue with stupid.

Apologies only just seen the replies! Luckily he’s come to now but I think his initial response was probably because he’s scared and doesn’t want to show it.

I’ve been self-isolating for over a week now, haven’t left the house once. Been good with hygiene when handling shopping that’s been left on the doorstep, post etc. I have posted elsewhere that DH was adamant on going to work with FIL the day after FIL had a cough and was feeling unwell. He went into several different homes in different cities to complete non emergency labouring jobs then thought it would be a good idea to pop in an Aldi on the way home just to buy 3 beers.

Low and behold I am now unwell and started presenting symptoms yesterday (the day after DH did all of that). I’m 35 weeks pg and asthmatic. My lungs are already incapacitated enough as baby hasn’t dropped yet and she is just above average size. I have been struggling to breathe and had recurrent chest pains for the past few weeks anyway. Mostly muscle pain when I apply pressure. I’ve also had pneumonia twice in the past 2 years so am incredibly concerned for my health. Just got a painful croaky, wheezy chest and feeling generally lethargic for now, not yet got a temp so I’m trying to remain positive. DH also started to wheeze this morning and has a runny nose but no cough. He has most certainly transmitted something to me and I really hope it isn’t the virus.

I haven’t seen our 4yo DD or any of my family for 3 weeks now and he’s only just taking it seriously. It beggars belief! I do think he is scared though and in denial because of those unknown feelings.

This episode has definitely shown many people in their true light (both good and bad!)
I think that when life returns to normal, it will definitely be a different sort of normal.

TreacherousPissFlap it really has! My PILs live quite close to us and know we have been really struggling to get food in/baby supplies without a car due to the panic buying and no delivery slots available. They go to the supermarkets almost daily and haven’t once offered to drop us even so much as a single apple on the doorstep!

Whereas my family, even my 73 year old Gran who shouldn’t have been out, have done as much as they can. Got us stuff with her shop when she went to the elderly only hour. She’s lived alone since DGD died and sacrificed the amount she could get for herself (due to the limits) to make sure we weren’t going without. Such an admirable woman and I hope I can show my appreciation better on the other side of all of this.

I would be doing the same if I wasn’t considered high-risk and had some transport. I really wish I could help people

I could put most of this madness (not just your DH, many people are being very blasé) down to denial and a false sense of security but to refer to his son hypothetically dying as 'unfortunate' would have me questioning if I'd married a sociopath! I'm sorry.

Just focus on feeling better for now, your gran is a good egg, you can spoil her after all this has passed.