Lone parents-can DC still go to ex house as per their usual routine if no symptoms?

[Bluewater1]

Just that, we do 50 50 and they have set days at each of our houses. We live within walking distance of each other. Whilst we are symptom free can they still keep their usual routine?

No

No!

Is it essential? No

Is it worth potentially risking their lives for?

Well I am under a court order so yes. We are. He's not going out seeing anyone. I'm not either. Been wfh for last week.

No.

People will tell you no. But I think of course they can. What's Nb though is that ex needs to be on the same social distancing page as you. So he shouldn't be out seeing friends or taking the kids to the playground or whatever.

Yes they can.

I disagree. If neither are show symptoms. And both houses will self isolate if any symptoms appear in either house then my Dc (also 50/50) will be going to their fathers.

This could go on for months! Are you suggesting that children don’t see one of their parents for months? Let me say this much, if I was the parent not seeing my children for weeks/ months I would have a huge issue.

I agree with sassbott

I would reassess after a few weeks. But for right now my children would not be leaving my home.

DD is at her Dad's as we speak. EOW plus one midweek contact will go on as normal while we are not on lock down... I regard it as essential social contact/travel. She isn't attending school or seeing friends and other relatives, cutting contact with her father too would be devastating for her.

If the government enforces a total lock down we will of course reassess.

Yes my children will see their dad as normal until there is a complete lockdown.

Ex and I are both keyworkers (teacher/optician) , both working and we are trying to fit childcare in between us but Dd still has to go to school on occasional days.

We are unfortunately resigned to the fact we will probably get the virus. Just hope not too seriously.

I agree. It’s their house too. My daughter doesn’t need to use public transport to get there so unless he has symptoms she will be spending some time there. Of course I think if he then came down with it both households should self isolate. But I’m not carrying the burden of sole child caring and home schooling whilst working from home while he sits and does nothing for months unless the government orders a complete lock down.

My children will be going to their father's as usual, as long as everyone is well. Everyone in both houses is isolating themselves, so I don't see it increasing the risk too much. There are no vulnerable people in either house, if there were then obviously I would do otherwise. We are all following every other precaution diligently and have been since before isolation was recommended anyway.

Those who say their children won't be leaving their house at all now - how would you be feeling if lockdown had started whilst the children were at the other parent's house? Happy not to see your children for months? I know I wouldn't be happy about that in my own circumstances and it would affect my children terribly if they couldn't be with me for months.

Mine aren't simply because their dad is in a high risk so group, as are others in his household.

We’re sticking to our 50/50 contact. Both WFH, both being careful re social distancing and no symptoms. Ds would be crushed to miss either of us. Things are weird enough for him without that. Plus ex and I live very close, we can see each other’s houses.

I'm in the same situation as you@Heihei
Thank you for all of the replies. We will stick to the usual routine for the moment