AIBU sending children to school?

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I have two children with special needs (autism and adhd) and their school has said that they can go in (they each have an ECHP)

At first I was 'absolutely not' but this change In routine is already affecting my eldest (10) he has started soiling (including in school) and the school has said his behaviour has changed dramatically this week. We also have an 18 month baby at home.

It is a dilemma because despite reassurances from the school, I do believe everyone should be inside, BUT I don't know how my sons will cope.

A lot of the debate has been focused on key workers, what about SEN families?

I just don't know what to do for the best.

Wise words of wisdom?

How about on a reduced timetable, unless that would throw your child even more. Either every morning or afternoon or every other day.

I have two kids with autism and adhd. Youngest is very complex and is in a specialist school. The older of the two is in mainstream with an ehcp. Neither child is at school. We could send the older of the two to school but have decided not to. Her routine will be completed destroyed not to mention the health risk. I’d rather she was at home.

If your son is soiling because of a change in routine I wouldn't be considering sending him to school especially if he has also been soilibg at school.

The school day as he knew it will look very different to what is on offer from Monday and its likely he will find it even more stressful than being at home. The staff he knows and trusts most probably wont be there every day if at all. Plus he will possibly have to share a school with children who dont normally attend who have come from other schools.

I appreciate it is a difficult time and its going to be a tough road but your son will be safer and less stressed staying at home.

Would going to school help your eldest? I mean, the school routine will presumably be very different from next week anyway so it's not really a choice between a change of routine by staying at home or normality by going to school?

Teacher here..... absolutely send your son in if you wish. That is your right. BUT you may need to play it by ear and see how it goes for a few days. With Easter coming up he will be off school again [unless your school is staying open] and that may then cause more disruption. Schools are doing all they can to ensure SEN students are well cared for and their routines are not disrupted too much

I'm seeing so much on social media about not sending your kids into school. It's a very scary time for everyone. And a very difficult decision to make!

My sons special school is going to be so far from the experience he is used to that we arent sending him. They were closing the building he is in, his teacher is ill. They were changing the routine. I am keeping him home. The school is doing its best but staffing is difficult.