Shared parenting & isolation

[Bananarama101]

Have a 9 year old DS with ex (resident patent) who I usually have a night in the week and alternate weekends in school term time. With school being off though we we trying to work out how to manage the situation. Both can work from home now fairly flexibly, but someone pointed out that with him travelling between the two households it's potentially quite a risk, and does somewhat go against the distancing/isolation advice. I can see the logic in that, but don't really want to have to try and say to ex they need to keep hold of him for the next 3 weeks or whatever. I'd find that quite hard, and can't see them being too happy with it either. Just feels like I can't win.

Anyone else experiencing similar right now?

Unfortunately, unless you live within walking distance, it is safest for kiddo to stay in one place.

It's so hard. I'm the resident parent and my ex used to come up from London once a week for overnight contact with my dd.

I feel like if he comes now he puts us all at risk. I see my parents most days and pretty much no one else. If he comes I'll have to isolate for two weeks each time from them to make sure I don't pass anything on.

But what do I say to him? That he can't see his daughter for an indefinite amount of time? That doesn't feel ok either. It feels impossible I'm really interested in how anyone is making it work!! All ideas welcome.
Interesting to read the non resident parties point of view

Really keen to understand this.

My DS2 spends EOW with his dad. However this weekend has been cancelled due to him moving in with new partner. So DS2 is with me now until beginning of April so I can decide nearer the time.

DS2 will be in nursery 2 days this week which I may change at any point. But I am not comfortable with him staying over anywhere. At this stage I would be happy for a walk or park but that would be all. But then battling with is that unreasonable...?

Yes exactly is it unreasonable? How much should you limit contact for your own safety

We try and share things out as best we can, but to put it onto one parent just seems unfair on everyone. I can understand if anyone was symptomatic, but it's a tough call

We're in the same boat and it's hard. But if schools are unlikely to reopen until September and this could go on for 6months, I'm not keeping my kids apart from a loving parent for that long. You have to all make your own decisions based on the advice/your kids mental health etc.

My kids will be going to their dads overnight weekly (he lives half a mile away). We'll try social distancing as much as possible otherwise, but I'm a key worker so my children are still in school, so it's just not really possible for us. We'll go out for essential things only, and I think a child's relationship with their parent is essential.