My ex lives with his elderly mum who has underlying health conditions, normally he has the kids half the time (ages 9,11,14). He still expects that the children should go there and spend time with them saying that's it's OK because MIL will stay in her room when they are there.
I'm concerned about this, more for her benefit as she is vulnerable. I work in a school and so have to go in and the children can go to their school too, but I don't think this applies to the time when their dad has them because there are no key workers in their family. He won't stop working as he is self employed so has suggested that I have the children during the week and he has them at the weekend. I have suggested that MIL stays with her daughter and SIL (no kids) as I believe they are self isolating as well but it seems she won't be doing this.
If she isn't going to do this then surely the children should be with me to reduce her risk and the kids don't see their dad. Or their whole family isolates together with the kids and I don't see them. Neither of this options is good.
Another option that I have suggested is that I currently have the children full time and he can see them whenever he wants, go for walks with them etc but not have them at his house with his mum. I know that he could distance himself from his mum easily but the kids/grandma wouldn't be able to (she told me that she was keeping away from everyone then gave my son a big hug and kiss a few minutes later)
At the moment we have come to an uneasy agreement that I will have the children during the week because I can take them to school and he probably can't, and this also allows him to work. Then he will have the children at the weekends when he is home and MIL will stay in her room (which she is unlikely to do all the time)
This really doesn't sit well with me but I don't know what else I can do and I don't want to stop the kids seeing their dad either.