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Would you still see close family members?

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Gruffalosandbuffalos · 20/03/2020 19:27

My parents are early 60’s, fit and well. They live round the corner and work full time. We see them regularly and it would absolutely traumatise my children to not see them for months on end.

My sister has a toddler and we usually see them once a fortnight. The thought of not seeing them is difficult but we could manage if we had to.

How strict are people being on seeing other family members if you are all fit and well?

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PlywoodPlank · 20/03/2020 19:29

No, you don't see them. Use video chats, but I'm afraid this is what social isolation is. Isolating.

SapphireSalute · 20/03/2020 19:29

its not getting through to you is it??

ofwarren · 20/03/2020 19:30

No. I'm seeing who lives in my house and nobody else

OhLook · 20/03/2020 19:30

No, of course I won't be going to see any family.

HairyFloppins · 20/03/2020 19:30


GirlCalledJames · 20/03/2020 19:30

We haven’t seen any family members since the first case in the country (because those that aren’t over 70 are doctors).
For their sake more than ours.
Every person you meet up with you combine everyone you have had contact with and everyone they have had contact with.

wildthingsinthenight · 20/03/2020 19:30

No please do not see anyone.
The advice is clear. Socially isolating means essential trips only meaning food shops, work if you have to go or medical things like picking up prescriptions.
This is serious. You could pass it between you, bring it in from outside the family and infect your parents.

IceKitten · 20/03/2020 19:31

No, not seeing any friends or family members except the ones I live with.

MrsWolf2 · 20/03/2020 19:31

Completely strict.

Sorry to sound harsh but your children will surely be even more traumatised if they don’t see their grandparents ever again if they die because of coronavirus.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 20/03/2020 19:31

Very strict.

Social distancing means no non essential contact with anyone other then members of your household.

Please, please stick to this and encourage everyone around you to do the same, it’s really important.

ShanghaiDiva · 20/03/2020 19:31

Not seeing anyone who does not live in my house.

NoSauce · 20/03/2020 19:32

For crying out loud. Your children will have to get used to not seeing them for a while. It won’t harm them.

SleepingStandingUp · 20/03/2020 19:33

The news statement today said its fine to go out, go to the park or for a walk, just keep your distance. Go for a bike ride and stay X feet apart, don't lick each others bikes etc. Is that an option op? Meeting somewhere you won't meet other people and just keeping apart?

SQuueze · 20/03/2020 19:33

It’s about limiting social contact not lockdown. There’s s risk but if you are all well and no underlying’s a reduced your circumstances I’d see them if I wasn’t circulating particulate widely otherwise.

ohmysoul · 20/03/2020 19:33

No. DD usually sees her godmother 3 or 4 times a week as she lives round the corner and sees my parents and sister twice. She's too young to understand why we can't see any of them at the moment and she's sad but I'm not going to risk it.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 20/03/2020 19:34

I hope this makes it easier to see why.

Would you still see close family members?
Bobismyfriend · 20/03/2020 19:34

Yes I would if I am well. I will take all the precautions eg, not hug and sit at opposite ends of the room. I will be going to see my mum at the weekend

Stuckforthefourthtime · 20/03/2020 19:35

Of course, coronavirus has a special dispensation for close family members Hmm

Look at this family in the US. They had a family gathering and now 4 of them are dead, the latest was a 55 year old without underlying conditions.

Wouldn't you rather miss your parents for a few months now and have them with you for 20 or 30 more years?

Theodoreb · 20/03/2020 19:36

Noooo do you not think everyone in the whole UK is also struggling fgs just follow the rules

WhyNotMe40 · 20/03/2020 19:37

No. I don't want their deaths on my conscience

Gruffalosandbuffalos · 20/03/2020 19:37

My parents are both still going to work every day and so they don’t understand why they can’t come here and see my children who are staying home all the time since they are taking risks by working anyway.

I do understand how social isolating works, but when people are still working and visiting supermarkets etc it’s hard to explain why they can’t then see their grandchildren, or to explain to my children why they can’t see grandparents.

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Bishybarnybee · 20/03/2020 19:37

It really won't traumatise them. Unless you make a massive deal out of it. If you manage it well they will totally accept it.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 20/03/2020 19:38

I’m flabbergasted at this thread.

I was under the impression that MN was full of well informed, educated, considerate people.

I feel so let down by the numbers who seem to think that the government advice doesn’t apply to them. I imagine you will all expect the NHS to be able to treat you and any of your friends and family who become unwell - not just with Coronavirus. Unfortunately the usual number of falls, strokes, heart attacks etc are still happening.

If we don’t do as we’re asked we’re simply going to have a larger loss of life. That’s not something that I want to be a part of.

dorisrainbow · 20/03/2020 19:39

Then you are selfish and a twat @bobismyfriend😡

Gruffalosandbuffalos · 20/03/2020 19:39

@SQuueze that is what they keep saying to me when I’ve talked about whether to see them. None of us are in self isolation.

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