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I'm fed up of everyone.

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Somebodystired · 20/03/2020 18:40

I'm fed up of my parents seemingly trying to convince me I should be sending my son to pre-school, when although I'm a key worker I am lucky enough to be able to work from home indefinitely until this is all over.

I'm fee up of DSS's mum (who I get on very well with) insisting he goes to school when he could be at home with me, safe.

I'm fed up of my very elderly neighbour insisting ongoing out socialising and then calling my DH round in an 'emergency' and exposing him to whatever she has been exposed to. (The emergency was she couldn't get her telly to pick up a certain channel).

I'm fed up of people thinking I am being overly anxious and cautious when I'm just trying to do my fucking best to keep my family safe.

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Bluntness100 · 20/03/2020 18:44

Schools are closed?

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Somebodystired · 20/03/2020 18:45

They are open to children of key workers. Which I am, as is DSS's mum.

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midgebabe · 20/03/2020 19:02

They are open for children of key workers where they have no other option only

wildthingsinthenight · 20/03/2020 19:06

I'm with you OP. I am totally fed of everyone too. The selfishness and pigheadedness of some people. So many are just not taking this seriously. And putting many others at risk! Angry

emilybrontescorsett · 20/03/2020 19:18

I agree with you op.

Eckhart · 20/03/2020 19:23

Have you told them you're fed up? Being surrounded by idiots is no joke, currently. What did you DH say re the daft neighbour? Will he be putting his foot down now?

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Somebodystired · 20/03/2020 20:09

Yes DH was fuming when he realised. He is very much on my side.

I told my parents this morning that I feel better knowing my son is home safe with me and that i dont want to talk about it. I know it is coming from a good place because they know I am struggling with anxiety and dont want it to worsen but they dont seem to have thought it through.

I've politely told DSS mum that I am more than happy to have him home with me if she would prefer not to send him in, and made a point of saying I dont feel it is safe for my own DS to be in preschool. But she wants him to go. DH is on the phone to her now explaining that he is really worried for his health but she won't budge.

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triptrapdollydumpling · 20/03/2020 20:14

You’d be amazed at some people claiming to be key workers in order to keep their children in school.

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Somebodystired · 20/03/2020 20:28

trip she is a teacher and I work for MOD, and I've been specifically assigned to COVID related work. Neither of us are "claiming" to be key workers!

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DentalPatient · 20/03/2020 20:32

I think meant in general not you in particular OP. Just adding to the being fed up with idiots.

triptrapdollydumpling · 20/03/2020 20:40

Indeed! Teacher here.

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Somebodystired · 20/03/2020 20:41

Ahh that makes sense. Sorry!

I've always been so respectful of DSS's mum and have tried so hard not to step on her toes at all. But this is the first time I've had such a visceral reaction to one of her decisions. I'm so so worried about him.

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MrsJasonIsbell · 20/03/2020 20:42

I agree. People seem to think I'm paranoid because I don't want to go in their car or pop to theirs for a cuppa.

CheekyMango · 20/03/2020 20:48

Well I'm fed up to. I've just my holiday cancelled for the foreseeable and have to work with people who wind me up so so so so much it's unreal...and I really need a holiday, bloody hell I need the time off or at least away from what's been a recent hellish place, so at least you can work in the comfort of your own home away from people.

triptrapdollydumpling · 20/03/2020 20:49

I don’t blame you at all. We’ve spent the day trying desperately to reduce the number of parents expecting childcare next week. We have had to accept children where we know that there is another parent who could look after them at home but are choosing not to. We want to take the best possible care of your children that really have no choice. Not only do they have to be in school potentially catching and spreading germs, but then taking them home and possibly passing them on to their parents. More key workers then out of an already decimated system because of the actions of others. Wishing you well OP Flowers

Bellyfullofbiscuits · 20/03/2020 20:49

Me too. I really , really disappointed in the world today. So selfish , short sighted and cut throat. Please I hope this is initial panic. I know ( I hope ,) people can't be this twatish.

Bellyfullofbiscuits · 20/03/2020 20:50

I actually hate the phrase, charity begins at home !!! No it fucking doesn't !☹️

BelleSausage · 20/03/2020 20:51

She’s not a key worker.

And she is a total wanker for putting more people at risk by sending her DS in. Your house could be isolated and safe if it weren’t for her. What a dick.

Quartz2208 · 20/03/2020 20:55

@bellesausage in fairness she is a key worker being a teacher and presumably has some concerns that the OP is working at home on COVID related stuff and therefore may not be able to give her son the attention she needs

Would her DS be at the school with her or at a different one and how many days would we be talking?

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Somebodystired · 20/03/2020 21:04

@cheekymango you're welcome to come here and moan about how fed up your are too but please try not to make it a competition. Yes I get to work from the comfort of my own and I know how very lucky I am to have that privilege but it doesn't change the fact I am extremely worried about the health of my DSS (and then my DS who will come into contact with him).

DSS is 11, year 6, and can easily occupy himself whilst I crack on with work, but in actually only doing about 3 hours of work throughout the day and the rest is done in the evening once my DH is back from work (he works in an isolated role so this doesnt really affect anything).

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BelleSausage · 20/03/2020 21:04

She is a massive dick. That’s what she is. School is going to be quite the frightening experience for most kids next week- empty corridors, most friends not there, no normal lessons, totally different routine. It will scare them.

Most of our students were really rattled today and some cried. I could not send my kid to be that lonely unless I absolutely had to. Which she doesn’t.

Quartz2208 · 20/03/2020 21:10

will he be at her school or another school

would you be expecting him to stay with you or go back in the evenings

CheekyMango · 20/03/2020 21:10

@Somebodystired I understand. Didn't mean for it to be a competition. Being with stressed out fed up teachers in possibly unfamiliar schools will not be good for any child. I do hope the schools sort out sensible rotas. This is why the emphasis is on keeping kids at home if possible. So out your foot down and have an argument about it if necessary.

Applejaxx · 20/03/2020 21:13

I know of a mobile hairdresser who has claimed she is a key worker, the stupid cow.

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Somebodystired · 20/03/2020 21:15

He will be at a different school to her.

I will be keeping him at home on our days with him (4 school days a fortnight plus one weekend). I told her that he can stay home with me and I could pick him up/drop him off on her days with him, so it wouldnt interrupt her time with him. In fact she works down the road from me and his school is in the other direction so it would be more convenient for him to be here.

I like her, but she is very stubborn. There will be no changing her mind and it will severely damage a very good relationship (that we have all had to work VERY hard at) if we fight with her over this. We have made our position clear but we have no authority to stop her.

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