Are you still going to family houses?

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Sorry another Coronavirus question. Family planning to go to my parent tomorrow. If I went there would be 6 of us in total. My parents are both in their 70s with high risk illnesses. To me we shouldn't be going. However everyone else is acting like I'm overacting as it's not a big group.

I dropped my mums mother day gifts off at the door today, walked part way down path & rang to say they were outside. We talked across the path for a little while & it was lovely just to see her as I haven't for nearly 4 weeks (I was unwell before self isolating fully hit & dad has respiratory issues). However, I wouldn't get closer or go into the house for fear of passing anything on to either of them.

I'm going to show this thread to my husband. He let his parents visit us today, I could have wept! I've stayed away from everyone this week and they have been to the supermarket twice. They played with my baby, picked up his toys and books. MIL rubbed her nose once and didnt then wash her hands. Then she coughed into her hand and didnt wash her hands.

I told OH it was wrong to let them in and play with the baby, she will hate me if I don't let her see her grandson so it has to come from him, he needs to tell his MiL to stay indoors and not come and visit us when she is bored.

Meanwhile MIL is seriously thinking I would let her take my older DD on an Easter trito the seaside to visit other elderly relatives and "run around on the beach". I mean, just no... what is it about NON ESSENTIAL SOCIAL contact that people don't understand??????

I told them to wash their hands before they left but they went to leave without doing so. So I went and got my hand sanitizer and made them let me squirt some on their hands. They let me but I think they thought I'm going OTT. MiL told me "it's ok because she wears her leather gloves whenever she goes out" - which obviously can never be washed.

They are in their 70s and MIL is not in best health, due to have an operation next week which was cancelled to save NHS bed space.

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It's my78th birthday on Saturday, and home alone,well with three cats, same on Mothers day next day, will not be seeing family at all.

I’m staying away from everyone indoors and keeping my distance outside (meeting friends for walks). Once I’ve been in the country for a couple of weeks I’m going to go for little walks with my elderly mum or sit in her garden with her (keeping a distance). We’re quite rural and antisocial anyway.

@1forAll74 Happy Birthday for tomorrow

I was dreading lockdown but now I feel like it can’t come fast enough to sort all the dafties out. My mum and dad are young and in good health, they live very close to me and we agreed that as a wee unit we could still manage to see each other if we agreed no contact with anyone else. But DSis has just been talking about all the friends she’s seeing this week so now we’ll have to stay away. I hope she changes her mind. I really do.

Yet, businesses are still open where people could come into contact with hundreds of people.

OP if it’s a small number go and make sure everyone is clean.

Absolutely not! None of you will ever forgive yourselves if something happens.

Hospitals are already at crisis point. There are not enough ventilators or ICU beds. Your parents will not be prioritised as they are older. Look at the decisions Italy and France are now forced to make between who gets the ventilator and who gets the morphine. I cannot believe anyone could consider this. If you love your family, stay away from them.

No. Although we are self isolating as a household for 14 days so the first thing I may do when we’re out of isolation is visit my grandma (when I know I’m not a risk) for what will probably be the last time. I’ll probably be too cautious even for that though.
My mum is a frontline NHS worker and has been told not to visit us for at least 12 weeks due to the risk she poses to us. She lives alone so it will be a case of long stressful shifts then home on her own for that whole period. It’s so very sad, but necessary.

HathorX your husband is idiotic, as are his parents.

No, no one should be.

No.
I don't jump off cliffs or drink bleach either.

I'm discovering how stupid some of my friends are, one is constantly going on about the selfishness of others yet goes to the shop daily is planning on seeing family members later including grandchildren then going to see her (vulnerable) parent.

It doesn't matter how many times I've explained, they cannot say no all I get is 'oh but so and so will be upset, they need me' etc etc. So fucking what we're all doing this to protect our elderly and vulnerable and our NHS. I am so sick of doing what's been asked of us yet watching dickheads including those I know swan around as if they're exempt.

Sort your shit out and stay at home if you're able you selfish bastards!

What about parents not in high risk group who are also self isolating - ie not seeing anyone except for me/ my family? I'm self isolating this week with DH, DD (2) and 1 month old DS. I know we won't be able to do anything for 14 days but after that, can we see eachother at home (6 people), assuming no-one has had any other contact during that time and has no symptoms?

I am so sick of doing what's been asked of us yet watching dickheads including those I know swan around as if they're exempt

This is exactly how I feel at the moment. We haven’t left the house for 8 days as one of us had a cough (now recovered). I’m sitting here watching groups of people walking up and down the street, kids going round to play at each other’s houses...
It’s fucking ridiculous.

@MrsKingfisher

Hear hear!!

I'm going to drop some plants off at mum's tomorrow for Mother's day and because the weather forecast is good we'll have a chat from opposite ends of the garden. I absolutely won't go in the house and that will probably be it apart from dropping shopping on the doorstep when she needs it. It's horrible but it's got to be done.

You just have to think that if you’re keeping it distance and keeping your family safe then your odds are hopefully better than those still out and about. That’s what I keep telling my mum!

My plan is to drop mum’s card and presents off in the morning while waving from the garden. Then I’m going to drop her a roast dinner down later on. Again with a wave! Then have a phone chat later!

Same. Not seen friends or family yet SIL been at grandparents every day.