What is the right thing to do?

[sillywoman1234]

Situation. Eldest dd works in a shop in our town. We are a large family- dh self employed.
Dd continuing to work in shop, taking all necessary precautions.
The rest of us aren't going out, apart from dh to the supermarket when necessary.

Dd boyfriend lives in nearby town. He is picking her up a few times a week and she goes and stays there a few times a week. He lives in a shared house,.but they pretty much stay in his room. Bf also works in a shop.
Dd seems to think it's fine to come back and forth like this.
Dh is in disagreement. Strongly. I'm in the middle but it's not as if her and bf will be practicing distancing in the flesh, is it, thus potentially creating more opportunities for virus to spread.

It's causing huge rifts at home. It's not feasible for her to move in with him for a variety of reasons, mainly work shifts and travel. And yet dd and her bf seem to think they are practicing good hygiene and awareness and that we are not locked down.

Can I have some clear advice please? My head feels like it's going to explode. TIA

By precautions I mean they wear gloves and are deep cleaning the shop every hour.

We aren't locked down
Do you have someone in your house who is vulnerable?
Because if not then I don't see the problem

We are social distancing , not on lock down

I mean if one of you gets it and you haven't got underlying conditions or are over 70 it will be fine

Loads of us have had it without knowing

it's not as if her and bf will be practicing distancing in the flesh

Is corona an STD now? People keep saying about this or that they won't be sleeping with their SO but still live in same house etc.

Loads of us have had it without knowing

I wonder how true this really is. I lot of people seem to think they’ve had it as far back as November, I suspect the vast majority have actually had a common virus and are simply indulging in a bit of wishful thinking.

We have all been advised to not 'socialise' though- 1 metre distance etc. Schools closed and kids told they aren't hanging with friends for the foreseeable. So us as a family are trying to be sensible and the younger kids aren't seeing their friends- and yet she still carries on socialising with hers?
What I meant about her and her bf not distancing is applicable because she technically lives in 2 homes. And that seems a little unfair on the rest of her family...

But smellbellina you can get it very mildly !

My kids will be seeing friends in the park

Teenagers will be hanging out in the day in town especially if MacDonalds and nandos are still open because we aren't on lock down

bigchris McDonalds have already all closed. Thankfully, because groups of people hanging out is exactly what we're supposed to be avoiding.

OP, I don't think she should be visiting him really, but that's easy to say when my partner is in the same house as me.

I think you have to give her a choice your house or his for 2 weeks ! she will soon come back after a few days 🤣 I know it's hard but kids will still be kids and not listen, I know someone people who are doing this still also.

My kids live half the time with me and half the time with their dad so we have a similar setup in terms of the kids moving around. This will continue. If someone has symptoms both households will have to self isolate.

Have you a link to that as on the news it says they've marked out how apart people should be ( McDonald's), nothing about closing

Oh sorry just seen only takeaway delivery and drive through

I think it’s fine for her to go between houses
Many children will because of their parents being split up. Mine will still go to their dads on usual contact time, if one house ends up having to isolate then the other will too.

Thing is, she's 21. She's not a kid. They seem to think his house isn't infected so it'll be fine. I'm just trying to point out that people can carry this, symptomles, for a couple of weeks. So if we operate on that, minimising the potential for infection should surely be the priority?!

Similar situation here, my two youngest have been told no sleepovers, play dates. My 14 year old is walking the dog with one friend today in open countryside .. not near others.
My worry is my 17 year old DD she has a boyfriend (same age) who lives away on the week, home at weekends. She’s gone to his house for the night as she always does. They’re not out and about and I’ve checked that none of us or his family are in any of the vulnerable groups. Is it ok though or should I stop them seeing each other for now?!
No advice just finding it all really difficult to know what to do.