Support thread for DP of front line medics

[StillCounting123]

My DH is a doctor, the main one in his clinic as he is the only one who works full-time.

He is going to be busier than ever before and I want to support him as best I can.

But I am home with 5 DC aged under 10 years old and I am looking ahead in my calendar to weeks and months of God only knows what!!

I thought this could be a place to share tips, a space to vent, and to talk about our worries.

Bump!

Not a medic but in a similar role. I am making him take all clothes off and shower at home time. But I am terrified. He knows he will bring it back. I know he will. I am really worried I am going to lose some of my family. I don’t know what to do.

TakeANote
Why do you think you are going to lose some of your family? That is a pretty hysterical reaction. Your children are safe, no children have died, if they get it they get it in a mild form. Even in Italy NO people in their 20s or 30s have died.
Your husband will be working hard, that’s for sure, but when he comes home he needs calm, not hysteria. This is not going to end anytime soon and getting worked up about extremely unlikely things does none of you any good.

One of my children has had recurrent pneumonia in the past with no obvious cause - thought to be an immune system issue. I have seen them nearly die on several occasions. I am terrified for that child.

I’m married to a GP and partner of the local practice. My own small business is in the shit with all this but i feel like I need to provide a happy, peaceful haven for my husband when he isn’t at work. No kids. I am taking the government advice very seriously but worry about catching the virus as that would mean my husband wouldn’t be able to work when he is needed most. I am not worried about our health but I do feel there is a high chance of him catching it from work. I worry about going anywhere in case I then unknowingly pass it onto a vulnerable person and make them very ill or die. I feel burdened with making sure everyone else is happy and well, when I am personally struggling to get used to all the changes and am upset about my business and have no work coming in indefinitely because of all this. Financially it owns affect us, but I worked hard and took pride in my work.

Hope your DC stays safe and healthy takeanote so scary to have that hanging over you. I hope your DC isn't fretting too.

Lioness I agree with wanting the home to be a peaceful place. Although we have several noisy DC and our house is in constant motion! But yes, I do want DH to focus on his work and then have home be a different pace. Sorry to hear about your business - I can't imagine what that is like.

It's all just so uncertain. DH has told me that he's been roped in to helping at the Covid-19 testing centres in the upcoming months. I am so worried about him!

The DC are not at school anymore and I'm just going to be at home with them 24/7 and try to homeschool the school-aged ones. Is a big learning curve for us all.

Thank you StillCounting. My post was meant to say, it doesn’t affect us financially. So for that I’m very lucky but it still makes me sad as I love my business and now have too much time on my hands.
I’m sorry to hear your husband will be testing others for covid . I can see how that would make you worry more.
Anyone else struggle at times with knowing too much about all this? I hear things from my husband about lack of support from government, organisational issues and now the recent guidance on who to prioritise for treatment etc and sometimes wish I didn’t know!

Sometimes. But mainly I am worried reading about Italy and similar countries and the huge death tolls.

But yes, sometimes a bit of innocence is bliss!

I think my DH is likely to move out this week with several other front line and key staff - staying in a local hotel and/or school to protect families. Anyone else doing this? I’m sickened at the thought of being without him but terrified of him bringing it home. No idea what is for the best.

Oh thank you for this thread I really need it! Dh is a hospital Dr, I’m so scared for him. He also has a brain tumour which was diagnosed 3 years ago but hasn’t been growing or doing anything until this last Christmas when it grew a small amount. He’s not had surgery or any treatment because he didn’t want to risk his career - and it doesn’t seem to be aggressive. But now he will probably get this bloody virus instead isn’t it bloody typical?!
I’m a TA so have been working looking after keyworkers kids. I will finish this Friday thank goodness.

DH is a doctor. I think we’ve already got it - currently under household isolation. We’ve been sleeping in separate rooms for a couple of weeks as it is.