First baby due April/May - family not listening

[ChickenNugget86]

I'm sorry to ask this and I don't want to upset anyone who is currently pregnant, but I'm due my first baby in May. I'm a high risk patient from having a mini stroke when I was 21. I'm taking blood thinning injections daily and unfortunately got diagnosed with gestational diabetes a few weeks ago. So I'm trying really hard eating a special diet etc... Its been a rubbish pregnancy as I've been quite poorly throughout.

Currently I'm social distancing and working from home for the next 2 weeks before my mat leave starts. I have none of the symptoms and following the guidence given daily. I live with my husband who is also working from home and currently has no symptoms. It's anxious times for everyone out there!

My in laws/nan & grandad etc... don't seem to be taking this seriously they are late 70s and all have health issues. We set up Skype last week for in laws so we could keep in touch but they seemed in complete denail.

They seem to think they can still come to the hospital once I've even birth even though the hospital has currently banned visitors. I have a scan next week and my husband might not even be able to come with me (midwife said she would keep me updated)

Then the awkward part of the remaining weeks of the '12 week period' even after I give birth I'll still be classed as being in that 12 week period (other health issues) so again I'll be social distancing unless the rules change.... There is a very large chance at this point our son/daughter might not meet any family/friends for a while. How can I get this through to people?? Or am I over reacting. My friends and work colleagues seem to understand and said they won't visit until its safe.

My husband doesn't know what to say to his parents. They want to visit us when we are avoiding people. They are still going out every day in busy places and determined to go to a church on Sunday even though the church of England announced there wouldn't be services.... Want to bang my head against the wall

Just say no. Keep saying no. Explain why. And again. What can they do? They can't come in unless you open the door.

Tell them you are following government guidelines and that they should be too. If they don't listen, play the guilt card. Do not open the door.
Good luck!

I’m 37 weeks at the moment and am also social distancing as per the guidelines (well, we’re isolating this week as I have a cough).

We text both sets of parents saying we would see them ‘sometime after the baby is born’ but not until this has settled down and that we will be sticking with the 12 week period for the newborn as well. They’ve seemed reasonable so far but given previous behaviour I’m expecting the in-laws to not take what we’ve said seriously (and FIL isn’t taking the guidelines seriously at all) and my parents to throw a strop (they hate going more than 2 weeks without seeing DD).

It’s making me feel slightly guilty, but you have to do what is best for the health of you and your baby. Just explain once, very clearly, that you are following guidelines and won’t see anyone until after the 12 weeks or longer if this is still as bad, then just keep saying no. The worst they can do is show up at the door, but you don’t have to let them in!

Thank you for the comments back, it's reassured me slightly I thought that I might be sounding like a bitch or not understanding the guidence correctly.

I have a difficult relationship with my in laws as it is. I won't be answering the door I've put a sign on my front door to say leave delivery's on step etc...

DH will get a load of grief no doubt on mothers day on Sunday. My mum passed away when I was younger so it's an emotional time anyway being pregnant!

What a time to be pregnant

No. No visitors. Lock the door. Ignore.

lock the door and dont let them in

Honestly, having a baby at this time makes me so nervous. My partner is classed as 'critical infrastructure' so he is going out to work, when he comes home I make him wash his hands and go for a shower.
I've cancelled everything over the past 2 weeks. I've not got my nails/hair done, which is a small price to pay, but something which boosts my confidence and if you knew me, knew I've always got my nails done.
My hands are red and dry from washing them. I carry antibac wipes to hospital and clean the lift buttons and door handles when opening. I even clean my doorbell - I don't even ring it!
I'm worried, because I don't think people are taking it seriously enough or will take it seriously enough until it impacts them personally. I am having my baby in less than 3 weeks by which point the NHS will be stretched beyond belief. This keeps me awake at night. It's my first baby, the labour wards aren't open to visitors and I fear soon even birth partners.
I've got GD too so being in the house isn't great for my blood sugars. I know you can go for a walk, but I just don't want to be near anyone.
I spoke to my consultant about delivery and I said that I didn't know how equipped the NHS were and if they could support this virus and the number of women giving birth during this time. She looked at me and passed me the consent form for a section - I could see she had no answers and she was apprehensive too - she was the 4th person to say they hadn't been given any protective clothing.
I can't risk visitors with a new born and I've said to my partner I don't want anyone to hold her. It upsets me that something as natural as a grand parent meeting their grandchild for the first time has been taken away.
I suppose it all depends on what happens come her due date and where the country are. I just pray that some of the measures that some of us are stringently following take effect. It breaks my heart I can't see my friends or have the new mum experience everyone else has, but that all seems to futile by comparison to the bigger picture.
Have felt like it is just me feeling like this.

I'm afraid you're just going to have to put your foot down and upset them. What do their hurt feelings matter over the safety of you and your baby? Make yourself very clear that this is not personal to them but that you will absolutely not be accepting ANY visitors for the foreseeable future