AIBU to hope we don't go into lockdown for an incredibly selfish reason?

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That reason being that we aren't even in lockdown yet and I'm already feeling extremely lonely and isolated?

I'm WFH, everything I would usually do (pubs, restaurants, hobbies) are all either not advisable or cancelled altogether. We're not supposed to travel, I can't visit relatives, my partner and I don't live together and we have to take public transport to get to each others houses... the list goes on and on.

Is anyone else feeling the same? I know that a lockdown may well be inevitable but AIBU to hope that it doesn't happen?

I'm sure many people feel exactly the same and it's not selfish at all. I can't imagine lockdown happening if im honest but i didn't think the schools would close.

I would imagine we would get some warning? So could go to your partner's or he come to you?

This is so beyond any of our experience and it is so unsettling

I expected the schools to close. I'm in Scotland so it was announced first. I don't know, if they do lock down, whether it'll just be the cities (I'm quite rural). that may just be wishful thinking though.

We need a lockdown or the kids will be wandering about every where , the ones already off school are in supermarkets with parents selfish

Can you and your partner move in together in case of lockdown.

miss43, I bet that was part of the reason they kept the schools closed much longer. I wouldn't be surprised now to see more restrictions to try to keep the children away from public spaces.

I appreciate why we need a lockdown, to stop those who aren't taking it seriously. I am taking it seriously, hence why social distancing, but I already hate it and it's been two days. I hate the thought of this going on for months on end.

@Selfsettling3 not at the moment, it's just not possible financially or practically at the moment.

It's not selfish to wish it wouldnt happen. It's only selfish when you start acting like it's only you it effects.

@miss43 some people are single parents. My DS is 6 so if I need to go to the supermarket he needs to come too, he can't be left at home alone.

I hear you OP. I'm an extrovert and I look forward to going out and doing things with friends. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to at the moment. In the grand scheme of things it seems silly but my mental health suffers if I stay in the house too long.

(Not saying you are like that btw just that's when I'd consider someone selfish)

Yes if there is no lockdown with pubs restaurants closed parents will let their kids out to mix with other kids at parks etc . I am in Scotland

@Waxonwaxoff0 you raise an important point about having nothing to look forward to. That's exactly how I feel too and it is having an impact on my mental health already and it's been a whole two days.

Of course its not selfish it feels weird already and im islating aswell althugh i have dh he has to go to work tomorrow-try and keep busy peopole online always someone to talk to

I'm a single parent to a young autistic DS. I will have no choice but to take him with me if I need to get food supplies. I am going to try switching to online ordering but there is no availability for around 3 weeks. It doesn't make us selfish, there is no other choice! Clearly, I wouldn't be going out at all if either of us were unwell or had any sort of symptom. I do understand that some are asymptomatic but what the hell am I supposed to do otherwise? Most of my friends are in th same position and I have elderly neighbours largely, all of whom are being sensible and taking government advice. This really is a test of humanity.

Don't get how taking your kids with you is selfish, honestly.

Is it not better to go to the shop than use up online resources for vulnerable and elderly people? And what's the alternative, leave them unattended? We don't have school anymore, remember?

I think there's a lot of talk of lonely isolated over 70s but I've been thinking about younger people who live alone. It's not selfish at all.

Have you any hobbies that might continue in an online capacity? Book group? Choir? Yoga?

I find the radio a bit more comforting than silence, music or the TV. I listen to the radio a lot but speaking to a colleague she only listens in the car so I realise lots of people don't listen to the radio at home and might also find it a little comforting if isolated.

It's shit though, having this uncertainty and fearing total lock down so YANBU

Not me, I find being on my own nice, less stressful than having to be sociable but my dd1 is struggling already, she has ASD and only two places she goes (each place is fir two hours a week), they've now closed and she is so, so sad.

These were young teenagers or 10 year olds most people in my area have cars leave them in the car.if there is a lockdown only one person will be allowed in the food shop per household . When they are in school they are only socialising with the same people day in day out, in shops
there are different people there everyday.

I'm already struggling with mental illness and finding this terrifying and overwhelming. It's good there is advice on mental wellbeing being publicised and hopefully that will be enough for most people, but it's not the same as serious mental illness and I don't know how I'm going to get through this. My head was barely above water before.

I normally take comfort from seeing that most people are able to live generally positive, safe/safe-feeling lives where they're shielded from major trauma (or at least not repeated traumas) rather than ones overwhelmed by suffering/loss/trauma. It's really upsetting seeing that so many people who otherwise would have been safe are losing that sense of safety, going through trauma, and losing loved ones when they shouldn't have had to and wouldn't have if this hadn't happened.

I don't know maybe I'm just weird but the world seemed less bleak. E.g. I lost my parents quite young and it makes me sad hearing people talk about doing things with their adult parents and realising everything I've missed and wishing I had the same support, but then at the same I feel glad that the majority of people do have that support, that care, those relationships and experiences because I can see what a difference it makes to people. Suddenly I'm seeing and hearing those same people frightened and worried about their parents and I feel heartbroken for them.

I also usually try to find some future positive point to cling onto, and since Monday I've lost all the little things I'd been trying to hold onto to keep myself going. I feel like I'm falling and even more unbearably alone than usual.

I don't think anything you've said is selfish. It's a distressing situation and social isolation is tough at the best of times.

I think I might go mad with my toddler. She’s already bored after two days, I’m pregnant and quite worried if I’m honest.
I am trying to think of stuff we can do, we have a garden but it needs so much work doing. Im thinking she can help me mess about out there for a start. I have books to read and we are going to get Disney + as we don’t have sky and we can work our way through that.
I have ordered myself a cross stitch to do in the evenings and a few colouring books for us to do together.
Any more ideas?

I’m with you OP, I’m single and live alone. I feel like my life is on hold in terms of meeting someone now etc and am worried about only having myself for company for what may be a few months. I know there are bigger and more worrying things to think about (people losing jobs and homes, businesses collapsing etc) but it’s really concerning for my mental health.

I love being at home but I’m only on day 2 of self isolation due to my 15 year old dd being poorly and I’m already missing going to work and popping to the shop and seeing friends and family
I’ve been busying myself catching up on chores and also trying to do things I wouldn’t normally have time to do
Like others have said it’s the uncertainty of it all
Things we’ve been looking forward to not going ahead, people being worried about their jobs, concerns about our elderly relatives or neighbours
It’s a sad,scary time