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Grandparents wanting to visit during social distancing.

27 replies

ManyClouds · 19/03/2020 14:06

Grandparents around age of 70 both healthy. Both would like to see grandchildren as they haven’t visited in 2 weeks due to possible coronavirus in our home. Our quarantine period ends this weekend. I have a gut feeling regarding this and I am pretty clued up medical wise. Just wondering what other people’s thoughts are ? I feel my advice & opinions are being ‘overlooked’ & ‘played down’.

OP posts:
Duchessofblandings · 19/03/2020 14:07

No

SirVixofVixHall · 19/03/2020 14:07

No .

Etinox · 19/03/2020 14:08

No

negomi90 · 19/03/2020 14:09

No

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/03/2020 14:09

Ours have been told not to come and still are. FIL and his cancer-survivor partner.

HPandTheNeverEndingBedtime · 19/03/2020 14:09

Do they have resources to see the grandchildren virtually. Maybe you could get a cheap tablet for them and set up Skype, it won't be the same but its better than nothing.

Spied · 19/03/2020 14:10

I'd have to say no.
I did say no to my Mum and Dad who were at an appointment in the town and asked to come and see us.
Mum wasn't at all happy and tried the " when can I see my grandchildren - next Christmas!" gulit trip.
Hold firm.

Aria20 · 19/03/2020 14:11

We are playing it by ear. Our school closed Monday and working from home now so I'm hoping if we are all symptom free after 2 weeks of isolation we can do a very short visit. Otherwise 3 months is such a long time Sad

Duchessofblandings · 19/03/2020 14:13

MrsTerryPratchett

You don’t have to let them in .......

hairyxmasturkey · 19/03/2020 14:14

Absolutely not

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/03/2020 14:15

You don’t have to let them in .......

DH would. It's not even like FIL Skypes or talks to DD really. He's here to see DH.

Duchessofblandings · 19/03/2020 14:17

Then suggest DH visits them and stays until it’s over (no, I’m not being flippant, perfectly serious). Priorities.

ItsJustTheOneSwanActually · 19/03/2020 14:17

No-one is meant to be visiting anyone, of any age, at all. That's what social distancing means.

Apolloanddaphne · 19/03/2020 14:18

Absolutely not. We have been to see my 79yo DM for the final time this morning just to sort her out with the means of staying in contact with us. She understand she won't be seeing us for a while. She is all sorted for services to bring her things and now she is hunkering down for the long haul.

NoMorePoliticsPlease · 19/03/2020 14:21

No and No

Wanderer1 · 19/03/2020 14:22

I would. They are the at risk group rather then them bringing increased risk into your home, so if they want to take that risk it's up to them.
I wouldn't do hugs and kisses on arrival and I'd practice stringent hand washing, but apart from that I'm not going to force people to stick to advice they don't want too.

AnneJeanne · 19/03/2020 14:23

How much longer are we going to have these threads? I’m beginning to look forward to lockdown and curfews. It seems the only way some people will truly understand the severity of the situation. Very sad.

SirVixofVixHall · 19/03/2020 14:25

We are going to Skype my Mil every day (in her eighties) she was off the the bloody hairdresser on Tuesday ! Then hairdresser cancelled and she suddenly seemed to take it seriously and has accepted that she needs to stay at home.
She is dreading the isolation though. She lives alone so it is hard. Her memory is not as good as it was, so she keeps herself very busy with social things as a way of marking the days I think. This will be very hard for her.

Duchessofblandings · 19/03/2020 14:50

“but apart from that I'm not going to force people to stick to advice they don't want too”

Don't want to?
Herein lays our problem 🤯

Doje · 19/03/2020 14:51

I'm all for this social distancing, but if you've been isolated for 2 weeks and none of you have symptoms, then you can't have it, right? That's the idea - any symptoms would have presented themselves in that time.

So, if you've truly not had any contact with anyone in that time, then I probably would say it's ok to meet up after the isolation period is over. They are the at risk group and you have been in isolation, so can't have it. (They might give it to you though!)

Skeeter2020 · 19/03/2020 14:52

No

PoptartPoptart · 19/03/2020 14:54

No it’s not a good idea.
I’m upset that I won’t see my mum on Mother’s Day, plus it’s her birthday on Monday too, but it is not worth the risk.
She is desperate to see the DC and they her, but I have said no because it’s not worth it.
We can FaceTime instead.
You need to be the strong sensible one op.

Duchessofblandings · 19/03/2020 14:55

Doje

You won’t know unless you’ve had a test.

user1471447924 · 19/03/2020 14:56

No. Tough!

Daffie19 · 19/03/2020 15:03

I have this same problem.
Mil is desperate to come round and see DS, she's 67 and in good health, but still...
We've been in 2 week isolation ending Wednesday, because I've been really poorly with fever, cough, chesty, headaches. Feeling much better now.
DS has had an awful cold and ear infection.
Most I've been is over the fields for a. Walk, where I knew I wouldn't see anyone!

Mil works in a hospital,
(as do I), and will be taking extra precautions when I go back to work.
I just don't think it's worth the extra risk when we're just recovering from illness.
She also puts on the guilt trip...!
Social distancing, she has no idea what that is!