Am I in the minority by following the guidance?

[YakkityYakYakYak]

I’m on mat leave (due to go back in 2 weeks but can work from home then), DH is now working from home every day. Since the guidance was released at the start of the week we haven’t been out other than to the supermarket or for a quick walk. Even just a few days in I’m finding it exhausting being stuck in the house with a baby, trying to keep her entertained, but I’m doing it because I think it’s vitally important that those who can stay at home do (appreciate we’re in a privileged position and not everyone can just stay in).

PILs, SIL and BIL (who all work from home or don’t work) seem to be just carrying on life as normal (going to the gym and visiting friends, etc) and keep popping round to our house for a cup of tea, inviting us round for dinner, etc. I can hear them all downstairs now playing with DD, I’ve had to come upstairs to stop from losing it. Mentioned to a friend today that I was finding it boring being at home and she said she was out but would come and visit with her toddler this afternoon. I said no to my friend but DH seems to be encouraging his family.

I feel like I’m losing the plot now. Am I just taking this way too seriously by basically putting myself in lockdown before it’s mandatory? DH thinks we should just do what we want until the government says otherwise.

I think that's why we ll end up with a lockdown of some sort as people are not following guidelines

no you're doing right and everyone else is literally risking lives by being idiots. I cannot comprehend how utterly stupid people are being and we are forcing the government to have to take drastic lockdown action because people are not taking this seriously at all.

Honestly I am embarassed by the behaviour of some of my fellow Co workers I'm considering resigning

No we are currently holed up for 14 days self-isolation due to a fever that lasted one day!

I think you need to do what’s best for you and your family, and you should let other people do what’s best for them, and try not to be too judgemental.

DP has got family itching to come for a visit. He phoned them last night and told them not to bother as we won't be opening the door to them. At least we're both in agreement. The fact that your DH is flaunting the advice must be maddening for you. 💐

you should let other people do what’s best for them

Doing “what’s best for them” pretty much always means doing stuff that endangers the rest of us.

To answer your question op, I’m doing the right thing. It’s infuriating that others aren’t.

I think you should go out for longer walks if you can socially distance. Yes avoid visits and meetups but there is no need to deprive yourself of frsh air change of scene if you arent ill or with someone who is ill. We are observing guidelines, so no.socislising (family of 5) or travel. Ds came home.from uni on.a bus yest but that was the only.way.he could get.home. and will now stay put at.home

Am I just taking this way too seriously by basically putting myself in lockdown before it’s mandatory?

What you've described is exactly what we're doing so I agree with you . I'm still chatting to friends, face-timing family, etc but we're not physically going to visit/see anyone (or have anyone over).

The way I figure it is that this keeps my family (and by proxy other families) safe. The less exposure we have to others, the less we can also expose other people. As much as I expect that we'll probably catch this at some point, if I can take precautions to avoid it (especially at the moment) then I will.

It's hard to know if you are being daft when everyone else in the house is telling you you're overreacting though. My DH was laughing at me for weeks as I made sure our cupboards and freezer was full. He stopped laughing when he went to the shop the other day and all the shelves were empty.

Although his latest thing is laughing at me for keeping hold of empty 2L bottles. I intend to fill them with tap water if there's a risk of water being shut off. I do hope he's right to laugh, but I'd rather be prepared.

In my area most people seem to be being sensible.
When I had to go to the shop, shop assistants had hand gel at the door, shops were quiet.
Almost all council services have shut, all sports clubs have closed, all baby and toddler groups have closed, and the streets are considerably quieter.

There's still some panic buying idiots, but on the whole people seem to be listening.

a lot of people aren't listening to boris, and if they are a lot of people aren't taking him seriously, or don't trust him.

this is because he's been such a joke all his career, and the government have constantly proved themselves untrustworthy in the past. they need to be communicating everything as clearly and as calmly as possible just now, and they are not doing that.

boris johnson and the government is not fit for purpose. his decision to not close all bars and restaurants will be remembered as a big mistake.

You are doing the right thing. We will all be on lockdown on Monday.
So many idiots not getting it!
School parents still going to send children to school where one parent is home and one parent is key worker !

Our pubs, cafés and restaurants are all busy. Many families, kids included, are milling about the high street, browsing the shops and chatting in groups. It would appear that an extended school holiday and the socialising that entails is a good thing for some. What a bunch of dumplings.

You need to stop them coming round. Each time they come they increase the chances of bringing the virus with them. Lock the front door. Tell them to go away.

They are irresponsible, selfish and stupid.

The problem is that for a lot of people their children have been going to school. Both my children's schools have people isolating/known cases. Can you really blame people for still meeting a friend for example when their children are mixing with hundreds of others. I have stopped contact but I can understand why people aren't - the message from the government has not been clear and forceful enough.

Nuttyfellalovesnutella

No. "You do you, babe" type thinking is not applicable here. "Do what's best for your own family" is the kind of idiocy that's going to lead to unnecessary deaths. Tgis is a whole society problem.

These aren't lifestyle choices. These are measures to try and protect the vulnerable. Which means if you can, you stay in. Even if the weather is nice, and even if the kids are climbing the walls.

I'm judging you, like I'm judging anybody who is behaving selfishly, because you deserve to be judged. And I'm finding you wanting.

Someone I know is supposed to be keeping everyone in for 14 days because her kid had a cough. It's been 3 days and she's sent her husband out with the kids for a walk around the block 🤦‍♀️

I've put myself and my daughter in lockdown, started yesterday. We have been for a walk in a very open space, which I am going to carry on doing for as long as we can. We already keep our distance from other walkers because of my daughter being autistic so I haven't found it difficult to do.
Will have to go down the town twice a week to get food and top my electric key up when needed, to be honest I'm dreading it. I hope regulations have been put into place by then.

The governments model assumes 75% compliance.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/self-isolation-advice/

It's been 3 days and she's sent her husband out with the kids for a walk around the block

This is ok. Looks at the advice. They’re allowed out to exercise as long as they stay 2m away from people.

YY ^^
This isn't a case of deciding on educational style, or clothes, though Nuttyfellalovesnutella, this is literally a matter of life and death for many who suddenly find themselves classed as 'high risk' with a condition they've lived with comfortably up until now. Anyone who flouts the rules is risking killing them. You don't say "Well, he was a murderer, but I don't like to judge. Perhaps it was the right choice for his family." Judgment (and putting measures in place to stop such things happening) is the correct response in some situations, and this is definitely one.

@Lycidas do you have a link for that figure please, I’d like to read more about it. Thanks

No you're the reasonable one here. We've been told to stay at home as far as physically possible and not to meet up. If your PIL are over 70 then they really are supposed to be at home for 3 months.

Agree OP. I'm seriously getting to the stage with people who don't think the guidance applies to them, that if they end up losing a loved one either directly or indirectly due to this, they can piss off and cry on someone's else's shoulder. DISCLAIMER this doesn't mean I'm wishing bad things on anyone or I won't consider it tragic.

It's a shit situation for everyone but unless you've a genuinely very good reason to ignore advice right now you're a selfish knobber.