Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Covid

Mumsnet doesn't verify the qualifications of users. If you have medical concerns, please consult a healthcare professional.

Original poster

Grandparents seeing grandchildren

25 replies

Hohohole · 19/03/2020 10:56

My mil really wants to see my daughter. She is 55 and healthy with no underlying conditions. We've all been self isolating for over a week and have no symptoms. Should I let her see her? What would you do?

OP posts:
HotDogGuy · 19/03/2020 10:57

Why are you self isolating if you have no symptoms? Do you have an underlying medical condition?

Eachpeachtree · 19/03/2020 11:01

The advice is no unnecessary social contact, so I interpret that to mean ‘see as few people as possible’. As heartbreaking as it is, my DCs will only be FaceTiming their (healthy/not in vulnerable groups) GPs until told otherwise, because to meet up would be unnecessary travel and social contact. It sucks, but it’s for good reason.

Blewbell · 19/03/2020 11:03

They are pleading with people to not have any unnecessary social contact. This would firmly fall in that category. It's not about MIL and wether she is fit or not. If she gets then she has contact with someone who is at the shops because they can't get an online slot you could easily have caused an h excess arg death. The answer is a hard no.

PurpleDaisies · 19/03/2020 11:03

She shouldn’t see her. It’s unnecessary social contact.

Morgan12 · 19/03/2020 11:07

Half the country are at work right now.

I'd let her see them before you genuinely can't anymore when we are in lockdown.

Blankiefan · 19/03/2020 11:08

It's time to embrace video calling. There's a great article from the Wall.street Journal that shows how effective social distancing is in flattening the curve. It really made me see the benefit of each decision I made. Every contact avoided makes a difference.

PurpleDaisies · 19/03/2020 11:10

Attitudes like yours morgan are what will put us into a strict lockdown and lead to more deaths.

Jellycatfox · 19/03/2020 11:10

Unnecessary contact.

Justmuddlingalong · 19/03/2020 11:10

I think as her parent, you get to decide. MIL's wants are just that. Wants. I would follow the current advice of no unnecessary social contact, which includes family and friends.

Morgan12 · 19/03/2020 11:13

Yeah ok.

That's why I've not left the house in 8 days because my son has a cough.

My DH and mother are at work as we speak. Children are at school still.

So grandparents can see their grandchildren.

PurpleDaisies · 19/03/2020 11:15

So grandparents can see their grandchildren.

That is against the official advice about social distancing. Have you just decided this on your own?

Morgan12 · 19/03/2020 11:20

Honestly I'm not willing to take that advice.

When we go into lockdown my mum is coming to my house to stay because she lives alone.

I won't and haven't seen anyone else. I'm fine with that. But I'm never, ever, not seeing my mum.

I can guarantee I'm not the only one. Infact there will be people with siblings etc who will extend that to them.

Morgan12 · 19/03/2020 11:21

People are still eating out just now ffs!

So surely family can see each other? In their own homes?

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 19/03/2020 11:22

We are looking after DGS today because he had chicken pox and can't go to nursery. DD will be off work from tomorrow as she's a teacher, it'll be facetime after that. We're both within 3 months of our 60th, no underlying conditions, non-smokers.

Marieo · 19/03/2020 11:23

It depends why you are isolating. If it's just because you haven't wanted to go to school or work just in case Hmm then it's probably okay, but not advisable. If it's because someone has symptoms or you have been in contact with someone who has then it would be unreasonable.

OrangePipsAreGo · 19/03/2020 11:26

Morgan, if your son has a cough surely your whole household should be self isolating, yet your DH going to work?

PurpleDaisies · 19/03/2020 11:26

People shouldn’t be eating out.

Family meeting in each other’s homes is explicitly warned against by the nhs coronavirus website linked above.

Everybody seems to think this guidance doesn’t apply to them. We are all screwed by these selfish people.

PurpleDaisies · 19/03/2020 11:27

It depends why you are isolating.

It really doesn’t. The social distancing guidelines apply to absolutely everybody.

Pilot12 · 19/03/2020 11:36

My MIL is getting daily FaceTime only. She lives alone in another city, if she gets sick she has nobody to look after her so it's better she does everything she can not to get it, this means not seeing any GC.

Morgan12 · 19/03/2020 11:37

@orangepipsarego he has had the cough for 4 weeks now and seen gp at the start who said there was nothing wrong with him.

Hes been off school since last week though when the guidance came in.

OrangePipsAreGo · 19/03/2020 11:43

Fair enough on that count then, Morgan

PepePig · 19/03/2020 11:56

I wish people would stop being so bloody stupid and selfish.

Boo hoo I dont want to make any sacrifices because my feelings are hurt and none of the advice should apply to me...

Honestly, fuck up. It's an unprecedented time, everyone has to make sacrifices. Either make them or don't dare be upset or complain if your mum or granny gets sick and/or dies. Or they're not offered a bed.

It's as simple as that. Catch a bloody grip.

Original poster
Hohohole · 19/03/2020 11:59

Schools are closed where I live for over a week and we work in a non essential roles and luckily have enough money put away to last for a good while. They have also been self isolating.
Seems like a hard no.

OP posts:
Original poster
Hohohole · 19/03/2020 12:00

Jesus Pepepig relax.

OP posts:
Wearywithteens · 19/03/2020 12:01

This reply has been withdrawn

This has been withdrawn at the poster's request.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page